taggart's dashboard

I had the same goal. I think I achieved the first part of your inquiry in a somewhat roundabout way: I put the items that I ONLY wanted FAMILY download in a set. I made this set visible only to contacts who are FAMILY. Then, (since it is the only option offered) I set it to allow FRIENDS and FAMILY to download the items in the set. This way, even though I had to set it so FRIENDS and FAMILY can download, in reality only FAMILY can download because only FAMILY can see this set in the first place. It's silly to have to go through these steps, but it works.