only send email for private messages specifically directed at me.

while i absolutely adore my friends' "private" bitching about their job, does it really need to land in my email inbox every time?

i would like a setting that emails me when private posts are made that specifically include me as a part of clique or ad-hoc recipient list .. but *not* when a plurk is just generically private because someone doesn't want their boss to find out they bitch about them while at work.

i know i can turn off these emails manually, but then i would lose the extra emails when someone specifically wants me to hear about something and includes me in a recipient list. i like getting emails about those messages.