32 y/o and my journey starts in a few days...

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Hello everyone.  I'm kinda new to the site.  I became a member a few days ago but I've been lurking and reading posts for a few weeks now. 
 My extraction day is Wednesday the 17th and I will receive my immediates that day.  I've been all over the internet.  Reading message boards about everything associated with post extraction tips, denture tips and tricks, watching YouTube videos, pretty much anything I could get my hands on to try and prepare me for this.  I honestly don't know what I am most scared/nervous about.  I never thought that at 32 years old, this is what I would be doing.  I am so ashamed and embarrassed that this is what has happened.  I have a wonderful, amazing, and understanding husband who just lets me cry my tears.  This is not a situation that bothers him.  His mom had the same thing done when she was my age and he was fairly young and remembers all of it. 
 
 I've never been the greatest about following through with dental appointments for the past several years.  Growing up, it was mandatory.  My mom religiously made sure we went, had the braces, the whole nine yards.  She passed away about 10 years ago otherwise she would kill me for letting this happen. 
 I was given laughing gas at a dental appointment when I was 6 and it had the opposite effect on me.  I could not be calmed down for nothing and eventually wasn't able to finish the appointment that day.  Since then I've had 3-4 dentists.  I've always tried my hardest to take care of my teeth and it was never good enough for any of the dentists I went to.  I was born with a hereditary case of epilepsy that wasn't discovered until I was 10 and have been on meds since.  I have been on my current one for about 10-11 years.  It's worked well for me and I've never had any problems with it, I thought.
 
 The last dentist that I went to was highly recommended to me.  Several people I know go there and dozens of 5 star reviews on Facebook.  Their website describes all the services they provide and how wonderful they are.  So I went to him feeling slightly hopeful.  He spent 3 minutes with me, got up, told me I would need implants or dentures, and he would be referring me to a prosthodontist in the area and then he was gone.  That was it.  I was devastated.  I went to him hoping for some help and I received anything but that.  I could not believe I was dismissed and with the information of needing implants/dentures.  I drove down the road to Costco and parked in their parking lot and cried.  I sat and cried for hours.  A few days went by and I went to my prosthodontist and I'm honestly glad I was dismissed by the first one.  I could not have been sent to a nicer, more caring office.  He sat and talked to me, asked what my fears of dentists are and what I want the outcome to be.  I honestly walked in hoping they could just fix it with crowns and be done.  Yeah, I wasn't realistic.  They gave me several treatment plans but I honestly procrastinated too long and they got significantly worse.  He is the first dental professional to tell me that this likely isn't my fault.  He told me that my medication likely caused dry mouth and did the damage from there.  I have quite a few broken teeth, some down to the gum.  I have one in the front that is chipped and pretty much none on the top right side.  I'm so ready to not be afraid to open my mouth and talk, smile, or eat.  But I'm so scared.  I'm scared of the swelling, the pain, learning to eat and talk again, and overall adjusting to them.  I'm hoping I can deal with the pain.  I have a high tolerance for pain but I'm not sure that will apply for a full mouth extraction!  I probably shouldn't be so worried about the swelling since I won't be leaving my house.  I work from home so I have the advantage of not having anyone see me. 

 I feel like this is my last weekend of "freedom" for a while and I've been trying to enjoy it.  It honestly doesn't even seem real that I'll have dentures in a few days.  I saw the wax molds (I think that's what they were called?) and I was very pleased with the shape and color.  I wanted the same shape as my teeth but straight and a tiny bit whiter.  Y'all say a prayer for me.  I'll keep you updated once I'm back to the land of the living. 
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Lauren

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KelDoLL

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Don’t feel ashamed ! There are many reasons teeth go bad...dentures have no age... dentures are a beautiful thang :*
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Lauren

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Thank you for the encouragement! I realize now that this wasn’t my fault like I’ve been told for years. Yours look great!!
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good luck and try not be nervous it will work out and once you have dentures you will be free of problems with your teeth, pretty soon they will feel like your real teeth. I had braces the whole nine yards than I had wired jaw surgery that  was an experience I never what to go through again and now this, I was depressed  because I have always taken care of my teeth , but everything happens for a reason , I still have my bottoms and I don't know if this is going to be an issue down the road . but I know what I have been through and I can brace and prepare what's going to happen  take care
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Thank you Clydene! I am definitely looking forward to feeling better about my teeth and I’m trying to prepare myself to make sure I keep encouraging myself once it’s done. I’ve read so many posts on here of people who went into deep depression from this and I’m going to make sure that doesn’t happen to me.
Goodness, I couldn’t even imagine wired jaw surgery!
Thank you for your encouragement. It means so much to me.
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Hi Lauren, the actual anxiety of leading up to getting extractions and dentures, I found was worse than the coping of them afterwards.  Everyone copes differently post extractions in their own way, and in their own mindset.  Physically and mentally it is a big trauma to go through, so if you are prepared it makes things easier.  Make sure you have all your pain meds and soft foods available.  For me the first 48 hours were probably the hardest, but if you have a caring dentist who will listen to your concerns in regards, to sore spots, getting your bite right, etc, then the road to recovery will be that much easier.  Working from home will be an advantage for you, as you will be able to recover at your own speed, without the deadline of having to go to work with them.  ie getting used to speaking, and keeping them in comfortably while in public. Having dentures is not an easy journey, but this forum is full of supportive people and helpful hints.  We have all been where you are going, and you will be fine. It's awesome to never have to be embarrassed by ugly and painful teeth anymore.
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This forum is amazing. I had my 27 extraction and immediate dentures on Sat and feel like I am sinking in a hole. I want it to get better.
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Tiffany Robertson

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I am here with you. Going through the same thing right now, just no immediate for me.
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I’ve been meaning to update this since the weekend. I will give an update this evening. I am so sorry you both are struggling but there is light at the end of the tunnel. ❤️
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I think I’ve passed the anxiety of leading up to it. Now it’s just unreal to me that it’s going to happen. I’ve read a lot of posts on here of people who have not coped as well post extraction and have went into depression so I’m trying to tell myself that it’s not going to happen to me. I’m honestly thinking about asking for a picture of my teeth once they’re out to give myself something to see and say “This is what you got rid of. It can only get better from here.”

I did my usual grocery shopping today and got everything I think I will need as far as soft food. I plan on making all of my jello on Tuesday so it will be ready.

I have confidence in my dentist that he will listen to my concerns and problems and I agree that it will make it easier.

I plan on reading out loud and talking as much as I can so I can start talking normally quickly.

I’m definitely looking forward to not being embarrassed by my teeth anymore.

Thank you for your words of encouragement!
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Awesome Lauren, you have the right attitude, so you will be fine.  I took a photo of my teeth pre-extractions, and sometimes I look at the old photos, and go, yep I definitely made the right decision to go down the denture road.  Keep us updated :-)
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I hope I have this much confidence about it this time on Wednesday! Thank you for all of your positive words. They mean a lot to me. My prosthodontist took a ton of mine when I started this process and I can’t stand to look at them. I think I’d much prefer looking at them once they’re out. I am definitely going to keep everyone updated!
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Lauren

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I posted my Day 1 experience!
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Lauren, Good luck tomorrow. You'll do great. Having just been through it, I can tell you that the anticipation was much worse than the reality. Let us know how you are doing.
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Lauren

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Nancy, thank you so much! I’m nervous but not as much as i was when this process started. I think I’m most nervous about the healing process. I will definitely try and update everyone tomorrow!
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Everyone is different but for me the healing process wasn't bad. I had minimal bleeding that stopped the first night, not much swelling and no post of pain to speak of. There was minimal discomfort that ibuprofen dealt with quite effectively. I had my extractions on a Tuesday and was back to work on a retail sales floor on Saturday.
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Lauren

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Thank you for your encouraging words!  I have posted my Day 1 experience!
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Apryl Ashley

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How are you now. I’m 2 days in and freaking a bit. I went in with a positive outlook but I left without aftercare instructions and feel lost. I asked them to call me today and they said ok but never did!
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I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. I'm here for you. This seems like a great place to go for encouragement. I just had my extractions Thursday, and honestly it sucks. I cant wait to be over the hump of the healing process.