47 male dentures suicide

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47 yr old male,had to have top and bottom plastic nhs dentures. I haven't had a relationship for years because my teeth were bad, so bad, so much pain, and now I strongly, frighteningly feel life is over. My face has changed. I know I sound ungrateful and angry. I'm so scared of being on my own for my last many yrs. Implants will never be an option for me and also I scares the bezebeze outa me. Tell me I'm wrong , that there are many non judgement compassionate people that want love.?? Completely new here. First search result. I wondered if other people have found love despite.
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  • tired, frightened 47 dentures suicide

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Jason Price
what are you asking Jason?
You can have what you want.
If you want to find love you will find love
If you want implants you can get implants
You can work all these issues out with a therapist

Keep us in the loop
Good Luck
Barbara

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There are plenty of women looking for a good man to love. You just have to put yourself out there.  Dentures can be beautiful and will give you back what you have lost  (ability to eat, smile, talk).  I have dentures and I wouldn't trade them for the world.  
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That's interesting.
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Sherry S Stock

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Jason...Charlid61 is right. There are plenty of women in this world that would give anything for a good man....dentures or not. I understand how you feel though. I got my dentures a year ago and it changed my mouth (lips). I use to have full lips but now my top lip is much smaller than my lower lip and I sound funny when I talk. I’m just thankful I can smile again. If a man doesn’t want to be with me because I have dentures then it’s his loss!
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lisa j Llewellyn

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Very good response
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joan rosenblatt

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There is a dating site just for people who wear dentures.  One less thing to be concerned about.  
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How much could the dentures have changed your face? You do know you can go back into your dentist and have them make them smaller or whatever is comfortable for you. If no one would date you because of your teeth then it sounds like you have improved.  I will have to agree with Barbara about the therapy.  There are many ways to meet kind women who look for the beauty inside a person. 
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Hi, sorry I dnt understand why I must of improved, Pam I being thick?
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lisa j Llewellyn

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There is someone out there, but you may have to sort through the bad ones to find the right one. Don't give up stay positive. I do not like the way I like look with dentures either, but there is no going back. Look at it as a new and improved you, remember your the same on the inside. Best of luck and keep us posted.
Lisa
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I'm not going to mince words. You need to get some inner healing & deliverance from wanting to die over how you look now teeth or no teeth. Check out Kat Kerr, Katie Souza on Youtube. Here is a Friendship Line to a nice person you can talk to 10 everyday with no judgement: 800-971-0016. I'm sure they may have contact numbers for other if you want. Please get some help before letting mere vanity & loneliness take you out. God Loves you & I do too. He made me pass this way to see your post so He could reach out to you through me. God's way more nice than some people believe and wants you to have more in your life than you do currently too. Stick around for the ending of the show or you'll miss the fireworks! Hugz
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Jason Price

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Yes your right and I know it myself deep down. That it's vanity, I feel as if I'm so shallow. But I'm pretty sure I'd b ok with a partner having dentures appreciate your help. J
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Hey brother, don’t get down on yourself for feeling “shallow”. You’re not. This is definitely a life changing event. I almost broke down when i got the news most of mine needed to go. It was a shock, shouldn’t have been, but it was. I’m younger than you, but doesn’t matter really. Keep your head up as they say. Vent to us any time. Go out and live. Have fun.
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How long has it been since you've had your teeth extracted and dentures? It does take time to get used to the whole procedure. I got my uppers when I was in my early 30s. It was awkward at first because there were some people that could tell that I had it done. Eventually as I adapted to the change and my mouth got used to them my face looked more natural. My lowers, now that I am in my 60s I just had done March 11th. I went through a lot of emotional stuff after having them out. 

Jason, it's a huge adjustment having this done. It still bothers me to have my husband see me without teeth, but he also married me when I had upper dentures. Also a couple years ago my hubby had to get upper dentures.There is a woman out there that will love you for you. Give yourself time to heal and then maybe get some emotion help for yourself. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. 
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Jason I think seeing a Dr. and with the proper medication things will get better.  There is a dating site for people who wear dentures.  I am married and if I were single I would check it out.  Keep posting.


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Joan...I need that website! I’ve had my dentures for a year and no one has asked me out
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It is hard but you are strong Jesus loves you hang in there it will be worth it. Have me before you can have a we. If you have dentures it takes time wnd patience. Pray for strenghth xoxo
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It is hard but you are strong Jesus loves you hang in there it will be worth it. Have me before you can have a we. If you have dentures it takes time wnd patience. Pray for strenghth xoxo
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My hubby was 28 when we were married. I was 42 and had a full upper denture. It didn't matter to him either way because, as far as he is concerned, I am beautiful.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I don't see what he sees, especially when I don't have my dentures in.  But, just recently, I got to the point where I decided to go without them for awhile. We were sitting and talking when he said it again. As far as he's concerned, I, without any teeth in my mouth, is beautiful.

She's out there. You say your face has changed. That may be true, but you are still the same inside, aren't you? I don't think having your teeth removed or face change has changed who you are.

One thing i used to do was to volunteer to get my mind off of myself. You know what? It worked, and I think it is one of the reasons my hubby loves me so much. He looks on my heart.

One last note, if you are familiar with Stephen Hawkins, then you know he was not a, physically, attractive man. Yet, he was married to two very beautiful women. The last one until his recent death. One thing that stuck out for me about him was his sense of humor. Here was a man who could not move or even talk, yet when he used his one eye, what he did was to give to others, and one of those ways was with humor.
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Beautiful post!
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Clairetta O'Neal Anderson

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Thanks, Cindy Bellamy. I'm just saying it like it is.
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Sherry S Stock

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You are blessed to have a good man like that. God bless you both!! ✝️
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Dude!!  I soooo get this!!  I have a beautiful smile but for some reason my chin has started to change. Not like where it points up as you get old,  I am only 53.  But for some reason it seems to have weird dimples all on the bottom.  I dont know , but I totally get you!!
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Man, I know exactly what you're going through. I was already a divorced single father when I had to get all my teeth extracted and full dentures. And I pretty much gave in to the idea of just spending the rest of my life alone and raising my kids. I don't really have time for much else anyway. While all the assurances that love is out there and there are people who don't care about such physicality is a sweet sentiment and shouldn't be forgotten, it's not what is staring back at you in the mirror. Reality is hardly ever as whimsical. It doesn't hurt to have hope, but in my experience don't rely on it. It never helped me to fall asleep alone. That being said, I am not trying to insult or degrade that advice that others have already given. My point is, you can't let disappointing realities dictate your will to live man. To hell l with all that. If love isn't working for you, find something else. There is a while world out there, get lost in something of for nothing else than to keep your mind busy. I know how horrible loneliness is but you can use it to work on yourself. Learn something new about the world. Only we can make our lives beautiful. And if you can't live yourself, then a relationship probably won't fix anything anyway. I have faced ridicule for my dentures, I have had women laugh in my face and even quit talking to me altogether when they found out. Yeah it sucks, but we can't let it run out lives, brother. There is strength in all of us, whether we realize it or not. I know you can find it. So to hell with everything else. I am not a religious person and I don't use therapy, but I won't discount what the others said here. They are speaking from a good place so listen if you can. Things will get better brother. Stay alive, then find yourself. That self doesn't have to come from a woman. Peace man. My thoughts are with you. It's all in the family, after all.
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You are gonna be fine brother. I got faith in ya! We all do. Get out there and enjoy your life!
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And Lisa is a rose! She won’t steer you wrong. And if you have technical questions, try and find Josie on here. These 2 chicks can’t be beat. They helped me out if the gutter and I couldn’t be more thankful!
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Jason
Thank you so much for letting us know that we helped
Please remember that you have people in your life that would be devestated if anything happened to you
Join some groups
Drop into an AA meeting
Have a consultation with a therapist
Be active in your recovery and let us know how you are
doing
Good Luck and stay well
Barbara
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What happens to us is 10% the other 90 % is our attitude. Hang in there with us toothless wonders lol.
I need some suction cups for my uppers.lo
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Leisa Wells
Of course if you can afford an over denture or a  clip on denture (attached to implants )  you will not need  to have a covered   pallet and you will not need adhesives or glue
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THERE IS A DATING SITE FOR PEOPLE WHO WEAR DENTURES.  ONE LESS THING TO EXPLAIN.
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Jason

Make your dentist do his job
Go back to him and tell him you can not eat
You paid him your money so now make him do his job
Barbara
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Jason
Your job now is to become  an expert on what you need
This  is a really important point in your life
Take control of your future

Make your dentist accountable to you
You paid him your money now demand that he
does his job or give you a refund

Read about dentures
Read about implants
Join the make your own dentures group on face book
Do it all

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Of course if you can afford an over denture or a  clip on denture (attached to implants )  you will not need  to have a covered   pallet and you will not need adhesives or glue
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I just recently joined “dating with dentures” website. It’s newly formed so this is a great time to join. Just go to datingwithdentures.com.
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Sherry, GOOD FOR YOU, AND GOOD LUCK GIRL
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When it’s real, it’s real. My wife doesn’t care that I got dentures at all. I was worried she would, but she loves ME. Not my teeth. Hell, she loved me with bad teeth. I also know there is a strong possibility she will need a colostomy bag one of these days. She has her own medical issues that put mine to shame. But I will love her no matter what. I took me years and years to find this person. I wasn’t looking. We just met one day and it’s been history since. There’s someone out there. I hope you meet them. Just keep living your life. That’s the only way there is a chance.
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I’m sending lots of love to you, Jason!! I understand your feelings. It took me awhile to come to terms with the fact that I had to have all my teeth pulled. Woman are so very understanding (most of us). Enjoy your life! You only get one.
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Thank you, I am still alive. Mostly because of all I've received here. I'm not sure where to post a thanks to everyone.? Every single comment has helped. I felt very, very low f a few weeks there and honestly thought it was time to check out, not just because of dentures and the way I look. A lot has happened recently. I confess to drinking way too much lately too, somehow all I have read here has even stopped me doing that to myself, slow suicide! I'll try t fund where to post a thanks everyone, and thanks again to you all. I'm getting help,I have searched for the dating with dentures but I can only find dating site software. I am in the UK, maybe that is why. Also just t say, I have not had to pay f teeth extraction or dentures, very lucky to have the NHS, I doubt I cld ever afford private work or implants. I'll be back but thanks to everyone who had given me time and advice. I might be alright. Jx
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So glad your ok and getting some help, I was suicidal as well about 5 months into this journey, Im 9 months in now and making great improvements and helping other people, so I know there is a rainbow at the end of all this, hang in there even on a bad day, just knowing you can jump on here and reach out anytime is so helpful this group saved me too CONGRATS ON DOING AND FEELING BETTER!!!! YOU GOT THIS
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Glad to hear you're getting help. That's all the thanks I require. But you're welcome anyway. Any time. Life is full of lows, it's easier to climb out with some teamwork. Best of luck. Keep your chin up, no matter what's inside it. A little denture joke there I just made up. Everyone handles stress and depression differently, so don't ever feel ashamed of it. I try not to anyway. Take care of yourself brother.