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Its been a week and a half and I am isolating myself and crying a lot over the loss of all of my upper teeth. I have called into work because I just can't face the day! I have spent a small fortune on my teeth and still lost them. I was a model, and I am not a shallow person at all but do take pride in how I look.  I have struggled with addiction and depression most of my life and I don't want to end up loosing it all and when I have anxiety I feel that's what will happen. 
I hate this upper denture and feels awkard in my mouth.  I have put my dating life on hold and afraid I may now never find a partner.  I may never have the confidence I once had and I have always been a pretty confident person.  All I want to do is stay in my room and cry all day. 
Please tell me this will get better.
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It will get better. Maybe you can ask if the can make the back edge of your upper plate less thick, so you can adjust to it better. I used to feel my mouth was full of golf balls, but that was also due to me not being able to fit the dentures in securely with an adhesive. I have now found the Polident Powder has helped me to adjust to my top denture plate much faster than I expected.
It will get better. Isolating yourself wont help your health, so you need to try getting used to the dentures while sitting on your porch, in the back yard or in the front yard. Try wearing them while your practicing you alphabet in the mirror. Try different things, so you can know your life is better with your upper dentures.
I now know I can look good on TV with my dentures. It has been so different, but a major improvement for me. It took me a bit, but I am so loving having all of my teeth looking so good now.
IT WILL AND DOES GET BETTER!!!! Please do what you can to let others seeing you with your teeth tell you HOW GREAT YOU LOOK!!! That really helped me when I was in doubt about how my upper plate made me look.
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Thank you
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Hi, on antibiotics for abcess. used oragel extra strength at 12 pm and its 4:30 the next day and I cant feel my chin and lip.  made the appointment and had the molds taken for the dentures. I will make the appointment to get all the teeth pulled but mostly I fear I wont be able  to speak well. If I take a week off work will that help me get used to the temporary dentures? eventually im getting the posts in and I will have the snap in type.. The anxiety is killing me.

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I had my final extractions and immediate upper and lower dentures inserted on Friday, December 18. I went back to work the afternoon of Wednesday December 23. Looking back, I wish I had taken a couple more days off. The first two weeks are generally the toughest. I do want to stress that everyone's situation is unique and while for me, 10 days would have been optimal, others could require more or less time. If you are able to take a week off, I would highly recommend that you do that. Best of luck!
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Cary, don't worry to much this journey that you are experiencing right now will pass with time. I'm still going through my journey as well. One thing that I do know is that you will need to get comfortable with wearing your uppers and overtime it will start to feel some what normal. You will be amazed how beautiful you and your smile will look in time.
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thank you
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Cary .... I don't know how old you are, but if ''staying in your room & crying'' is going to solve this, it won't... Eventually you've got to come out & resume LIFE!!  We ''fear'' what everyone else will think...Truthfully, most people do NOT know you have dentures unless YOU tell them... This is a ''Journey'' that we've all endured at the beginning...Natalie is right, this will PASS, with time... As your gums are healing & shrinking, you'll be in more contact with your dentist ... My dentist was my new BFF!!  I had weekly visits for the first month or so ...IF I was uncomfortable, the dentist fixed it, even if I was there the ''day before'' ...For the first few weeks, you'll be eating ''soft foods'', but you'll eventually be eating ''regular foods'', just like you did before...It's a ''process''... learning how to chew with dentures requires ''small bites & eating slower'' (Good for weight loss too!)...At 5 weeks, when my birthday arrived, I was eating a ''Steak''... So you see, it does get BETTER ... Now about your ''Social Life'', I started dating a man, told him that I have an upper denture... and he didn't care!!  He's always telling me he LOVES MY SMILE.... You will TOO!!!  You will no longer have any toothaches, infections or pain in your upper teeth... I had ''bone loss'', so it wasn't an option once my teeth were becoming loose & falling out on their own,., Now, I walk with PRIDE and SMILE at everyone... and NOBODY has asked me if I my uppers are dentures...

You WILL survive this, just be patient and give your gums time to heal, In no time, approx. 9 mos,., you'll be in your permanent dentures, which are much thinner and you'll be glad you did this..I know I am...  Keep updating on your progress, we're here to help YOU thru this ''JOURNEY''...
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What a beautifully written post! You've even inspired me, who has been going through a lot, but not to the extent that Cary seems to be going through.

Cary, it really does get better. I think we worry far more about it than anyone else does! This is not the end of the world!

We are always here for you!

Hugs
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Thanks, so glad to find this group. For the ast week and a  half I just went along and tried not to think about it.  Its been a very long journey, as we all have had. Eight years ago I spent almost 20,000 on implants and bridges.  It looked great but some of the teeth went bad underneath.  So I had to say goodbye to the 20,000 and also loose what I have left! My teeth seem to fall like dominos. Once one goes and I have to replace it, the next one falls.  Now that is happening on the bottom and I have to really be aggressive and fight it.  I also had five implants put in when they pulled my teeth, so i can attach denture to it eventually.  If I can ever afford a bridge, I have plenty of implants now to hold one up!  Well.....one more day at home and I will return to my life as a teacher of special needs kids.  They sure have a  way of making my stuff seem like nothing at times.  Thank you and many blessings, Cary
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thank you so much
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Atta Girl Cary!!!.... STAY POSITIVE... I always say:  ''Life is about Attitude, so have a good one''!!   The time will pass by so quickly, and you'll forget about the initial discomfort at getting ''dentures''... You're on your way to a Beautiful Smile and I'm sure your ''Special Needs Kids'' will be HAPPY to see you... Yes, when we think things are ''bad'', just look at what other's endure daily, and Count Your Blessings!

When Life throws me Lemons, I Make Lemon-Aid ...I too spent a lot of money trying to save my teeth , to no avail.. My dentist told me that all the ''deep cleanings, gum surgery, etc. would NOT have stopped my ''bone loss''... it was hereditary!!.. Luckily, I didn't need ''lower dentures'' (Yet?), so I have a ''Partial''....Only 5 teeth left in my lower jaw...which hold the partial nicely... There is NO more infection in my gums either... 

Good Luck Cary.... We're here to help you..  Keep updating too... 
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Yes, it will get better. I had my remaining teeth pulled on December 18 and upper and lower dentures inserted. The top ones especially felt too big in my mouth the first couple weeks. They feel more natural now. There is an adjustment period for sure, but it will get better. Hang in there
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Thank you Gina...wow you're pretty new at this denture thing too! Hope you are doing well and Im so glad Im not alone with this anymore.  Didn't know this page existed!
Blessings sent.....
cary
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Yes. I am new at it. And it will get better. Good luck going back to work today! I found that getting back into a normal routine was very helpful in my recovery process. Despite many challenges, I found that being able to smile without worrying about people seeing my bad teeth was a morale booster.

I am doing pretty good. Still have some eating challenges, but have an appointment on Friday morning to see if it is time for a soft reline.

Keep in touch and best wishes.
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Good Luck Gina... You're very positive about this process... It does get better..As you go along, you'll figure out how to ''adjust'' to life with dentures..including ''eating''...I know, when I had any ''sore spots'' my dentist did everything to make me COMFORTABLE...and I was..After I had my extractions & dentures put in, I still had my hair appt. 2 days later and a meeting 3 days later...I didn't miss a ''beat''... Life went on!!  There was little ''notice'' of my new teeth either... So resuming your daily activities is important .. Best Wishes, ''Dee''
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Thanks Dee! Things get better daily.
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I completely understand what you're going through. I am on day 7 of getting immediate upper dentures, I'm 37 years old. I also feel a little sad and depressed with the situation, especially since I'm not that old. I didn't feel that I had any other choice, and that this was the only way I would get my confidence and smile back. It's definitely a big adjustment having this foreign object in your mouth, let alone trying to eat or talk with it in. Hang in there, hope things get better for you soon!
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Tina -- you hang in there too. It is a process for sure, but you will get through it. My depression about the whole process really occurred while I was getting all the extractions prior to the final extractions and getting the immediate dentures inserted. The process was delayed because one extraction site wasn't healing well so it took three weeks longer than planned. Once I had the dentures in, even though I was pretty miserable the first week or so, I wasn't depressed. I didn't find this forum until after my final extractions and denture were inserted. I wish I had found it sooner.
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Hello Barb, you might need to take 2 or 3 weeks off. Give yourself some time to adjust with your new mouthpiece. Good Luck!
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Hey! Found this a little late but I too have had all my teeth removed and immediate dentures given. The dentist said it was an emergency since my teeth were crumbling, breaking and abscessing for several year's. I knew they needed to come out but wasn't psychologically prepared for the emotional trauma I experienced immediately after the extraction of my top front teeth. I was horrified and in so much pain. Now, almost 2 month's later all the extractions have been done and I am still struggling with my lower plate. My top plate doesn't give me as much hassle, I pop that in first thing in the morning and it stays in place with out glue which helps me come outta my room and start my day. Bottoms are giving me hell and I still really can't eat solid food. I've had numerous adjustments and a soft relign to date.... I'm experimenting with the many adhesive's available and have not found one that works my satisfaction. (Could use some help there)
I'm a single woman and fear my kissing day's are over.
I am less traumatized now. But sure do need a support group to help with this life changing event. I'm praying the day will come when these teeth don't feel so foreign and so large and I can eat again.
I feel I'm having to use too much glue and it's making me sick. I refuse dinner invitations and rarely eat in front of anyone, including my immediate family.
I hope you're doing better ladies. My anxiety and depression have come back and it's a battle for sure. I'm faking it with high hopes of making it.
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Vicki it will get better.  I am 16 days and I thought I was never going to get used to these hockey pucks in my mouth but everyday it's better.  You have to wear them. That's the only way to get used to them.  I did not let it stop me from going out or talking to people. My natural teeth were keeping me from doing that.   I went out right away, My speech is much better and I had a cheeseburger this week so eating is better.  You can go to restaurants just order soft dishes. Fish, mashed potatoes, soft vegetables, ice cream. You'll get through it.  
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Vicki, are these temp or permanent? Have you tried Secure?

I have my permanents and recently saw on a YouTube that this lady uses Secure on the top and then uses Ezo on the bottom. I tried that and will do it again when I will be gone all day. However, since getting my permanents in have been determined to not need anything. So far I've been able to eat steak and all the fixings twice now.

Just don't stop trying!
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The most important thing is to get the dentist to keep correcting and adjusting or to realign the dentures until it works. they always want to take advantage of us and claim more costs or its a mental problem. Don't give up and fight to get to a place where the teeth fit and start to feel right ! I've been thru hell and back fro two years, and countless doctors and useless work . you have to make them make it right , or these doctors will work you for more money.


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I am so pleased i have found this group, Cary i had all of my last remaining 18 teeth removed on wednesday and thursday last week i know it had to be done i have immediate dentures fitted ive never cried so much so many thoughts going through my head since april, i was so scared of dentist and what and how they would do it. I know its going to be a long journey getting use to them, im still extremely  sore and cant sleep, last night was the 1st night i have taken them out to leave them out over night i couldnt face hubby because im embarrassed even though he says he loves me for me not my teeth, Cary its really hard but believe me when you smile with beautiful teeth you will just know how far you have come, i actually laughed with my mouth open on saturday, im hoping dr will give me sick note tomorrow as not ready to go back to work because of pain and talkig plus eating whats that lol
 
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Joanne, Good Luck in your Journey... This is a process and it will take time for your gums to heal..once they are, you will never regret it... The soreness will subside daily...You'll be seeing your dentist regularly for the first month or so & you'll have ''relines'' frequently as your gums shrink... In approx. 9 months or so, you'll be ready for the ''thinner'' permanent dentures, which will be the exact mold of your mouth.. so it does get easier with time... In the interim, there are ''adhesives'' that you can use like ''Fixodent'' paste or powder... I've had dentures for a little over 3 yrs. & couldn't be happier...I have no more toothaches, loose teeth or gum disease.. I suffered from ''bone loss'', which was hereditary...  You'll have a beautiful smile and many people will never know that you have dentures....  

We're here to help you thru this journey that we've all been on too...Life does go on with ''dentures''.... You've got a great husband who is understanding too..Keep the updates coming too.. Good Luck!!
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I found a willow herbal extract that helped me a lot with the pain after my extractions.
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I had extractions a month and a half ago and immediate dentures. 
I don't see how I will ever eat with these things. There is no feeling or taste. I tried a few times and it is tortuous for me. I'm just eating liquid slop without the dentures in, losing weight and I'm already underweight. Sigh.
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I don't intend to use adhesive. It's poisonous. I seem to have given up. I can't eat with these things. I talked to the dentist about it, but he had no response. Basically, it's too bad, so sad for me. Get used to it or die. I seem to be choosing the latter. 
Taste is entirely gone if I try to eat with these things, not diminished. 
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You should have some ability  to taste.  There may be another issue if you can't taste anything at all.  I would make an appointment and go in to see the dentist.  
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Sandy, can you taste food without them?  If you put salt or lemon or sugar on your tongue, can you taste it?
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Sandy ..... If you need to use an 'adhesive'', there are pastes that don't have ZINK in them, so they're not poisonous... however, there is ''Poli-Grip or Fixodent'' POWDER that works very well and not poisonous either...You will eventually be able to eat without your dentures, once your gums have ''hardened up'' enough to eat harder things without any pain..which will be at approximately 10-12 months.....So, be patient during this ''Journey''... It REALLY does get better!!   Keep updating too on your progress... We're here to help YOU ... Good Luck Sandy
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Have you checked the ingredients in those products? 
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Hey Cary, I know what you mean about the dating part, but I think we just have to get out there, also I found this smizin.com it's a website where you can meet or date others that don't want to be judged by their teeth, such as us denture wearers. I'm fed up of hiding and feeling ashamed, time to get out there and start dating with my dentures