Being made fun of for wearing dentures ( seriously hurts)

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Have you ever been made fun of by a someone you love? Made fun of for something you have no control over? Let me tell you about my now again 2 X ex girlfriend. We used to date for 4 years and live together. But she cannot take the fact that I wear dentures. I do take them out every night. We're supposed to right? Dentures should soak every night? I wrong? I love this woman and she laughed in my face calling me haha you're toothless Todd. Gummy bear and sloppy Joe. Why and how could you make deliberate fun of someone that has lost their teeth? Any amount of dignity that I had is gone!! I need these damn implants so bad so I can feel like a real man again and be whole. I had issues trying to date in the first place that's why I mainly t took her back, plus the love thing. Now, no-way ever will I date with dentures this will always be in the back of my head. Anyone else here that has or had this problem. I can't be the only one?
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Todd

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Brenda Hayes

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A person in a relationship with you that is not empathetic to your situation is not a very caring person at least that is how I WOULD take that as well,  don't let one person who is not understanding what your going through ruin the possibility of a more healthy relationship down the road.  Are you being overly sensitive was she just teasing you or is she really doing this in a mean form,...only you know the delivery of her barbs and if you really feel she is being derogatory maybe its time to reconsider your relationship.

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Mary Cooke-Baker

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Anyone who says something hurtful like that is not worthy of your time. Kick her to the curb. Set her free to cut her teeth (so to speak) on other men, and find yourself a gentlewoman with dentures and manners. ;)
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Oh my, I am so sorry to hear that.  I make fun of myself sometimes with my husband, but never once has he said anything degrading to me.  It would break my heart.  I think if someone loves you, they won't care.  I get your trepidation, though.  I am glad I don't have to date.
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I've also cracked jokes with my boyfriend about when I have my teeth out, hey it does look kinda funny when I have no teeth. If I wasn't able to laugh it off I'm afraid I'd be stuck on the fact I don't have any teeth. I know so many people with dentures. But no one should make you feel less than just because you have them. I usually always have mine in when I'm around anyone even my boyfriend. Someone who truly loves you should love you no matter what.
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Barbara G

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Hi Todd
Consider  getting implants
The Least expensive implant system are over dentures
Price them out at a Dental college or go to Costa Rica
or Mexico where they are very inexpensive
Then again  you can always get rid of your girl friend which  is another alternative   
Let us know what you deceide to do/

If you deciede  on the implants You will  enjoy this over denture so it is a Quality of life issue in addition to a comfort thing 
Good Luck
Barbara 
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Barbara G

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HI Todd
We are very interested in whether you will be  proceeding with any  implant systems and which ones  you are interested it??
Have you researched any of the costs??
Let us know because we learn from each other on this blog
Thanks
barbara 
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charlid61

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If she is dating you for your teeth then you are dating the wrong person.
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Leeann Beattie

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There is nothing wrong with dentures don't were them at you have wash them every night I have two partials. I love them your girlfriend sounds like a bitch. No one really makes fun my parital only one time someone said you not brush teeth I have gum diease. I would date someone with dentures
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Leeann Beattie

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Nigth
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Gretchen Smith BDS

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Dump her! But no, I don't take mine out at night. I do it when I'm alone. Buy the 3 minute polident cleaner..Soak while showering and pop them back in!
But dump that rotten, selfish, hurtful bitch asap!
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This seriously upsets me so much for you, I am sorry that it happened, IF she really loved you and cared for you the way she should then she would not treat you this way. Dentures or no dentures you deserve to be treated much better than she is treating you, and should be accepted for how you are and how you come.. period no exceptions!! Its normal for us denture wearers to feel a certain way especially in the beginning but you need someone supporting you, not bringing you down! 
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Well everyone said the things I was going to say so far. Eventually most everyone who cannot afford implants will have dentures. They will still love each other. Your girlfriend sounds very immature.  Implants have a set of their own problems. Have heard they have fallen out and people have swallowed them. They are put into your bone.. that is not natural. I wouldn't get them even if I could afford them.  My dentures are a pain in the butt but I will get used to them...one day lol
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I don't really see it as any different than screwing in a hip replacement or a knee replacement etc.  My mother has screws in her hips.  My husband has screws in his wrist to fix a break, and my sister has screws in her shoulder from a replacement.  I have 11 screws in my jaw.  We are one screwed up family.  LOL!  It isn't natural, but it sure is helpful for fixing things that don't work any more.
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And you have a great sense of humor about it haha! Yeah your do have a good point. I guess when I heard the implants can come loose , fall out and can be swallowed I got a little paranoid about that. Plus I don't like being put under... scary! Have a great weekend!
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janet

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I don’t think swallowing them would cause a problem but if they were loose enough to fall out, then they would never work. My dentist told me I swallowed a piece of equipment during one of my surgeries. I just unexpectedly swallowed and down it went.
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Hi  Cindy Bellamy
Good post but I wold like to say I have my implants with  more then 14 or 16? implants for  more then 10 years.  The uppers are in  12 years  or   longer and I never had one problem with them.  No additionnal up keep or charges or linning chargers or redo charges or adhesive charges

They have been a complete joy and I have forgotten how painful it was paying for them.  
Barbara
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Cindy Bellamy

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Hi Barbara, well I didn't mean everyone would have problems, but I have heard of them. Good to hear you have had no issues!    Dentures can indeed be a pain. Especially those darn lowers ;) 

Take Care, keep smiling!
Cindy
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Todd - my husband makes fun of me all the time.  I spend all my time at home with no teeth in and a lot of time I don't talk quite right.  So, he laughs at me.  Can't really say that I blame him but we are old married folk at this point.  But, if your woman is truly making fun of you, that tells you everything you need to know about her.  You didn't say how old you guys are but I'm guessing her behavior is more that of a younger woman who hasn't learned some of the harsh realities of life yet.  Shit happens to people.  It's external and not who they are.  For better or worse is a real thing.  :)
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Thank you all for the wonderful support. I just felt the need to start a topic about that to see if it happens to anyone else, I know that I couldn't have been the only one and I do not have anyone around me other than forums to talk to that can relate. I've done kicked her to the curb for the second time and have realized that she is just a angry person inside and to make fun of my dentures is really childish. Actually some children wouldn't have went that low to call me the names that she did. It really breaks my heart. The thing is i need to get some self esteem and this issue wouldn't have bothered me so much. I do appreciate all your responses. Thank you all again.
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Hi Todd
I'm so sorry to hear that. She really didn't deserve you! I understand that hurts a lot but you deserve someone so much better. Please be proud of yourself and whatever you've been through that even brought you to the point to have to get dentures. She should look up to you and be proud of you. You got through something so challenging as we all here know. Now that is what a real man does! And she didn't pass the test!
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Barbara G

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Hi Todd 

Everyone wants you to feel better
This whole thing with your girlfriend might have had more to do with long time issues in your relationship rather then the teeth.
You said:

"The thing is i need to get some self esteem and this issue wouldn't have bothered me so much"
I think you figured it out with that statement by yourself.
 You are   unhappy with having to wear a denture at such a young age.  It is sort of a mourning process?
 Your girl friends torturing you abut it just high lighted all your
own feelings about it

I imagine now without her there you will begin to sort it out and figure out what you want to do next

Good luck and let us know how you are
Barbara
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Melissa

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OMG, boot her to the curb. She's a terrible person. 
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I know this post is old. Just wanted to tell u.. It sucks.ive been there and done that. U r a whole man with or without teeth. I know how u feel tho. I'm only 32 and have had no teeth for 6 years on my bottom and 7 years on the top. I felt so horrid when I looked in he mirror. I am now on my 2nd set of dentures and fighting with the affordable dentures in bowling Green KY over the dentures they made for me. They used the biggest size teeth in my top dentures and they're super long and huge in my mouth. Trying to get them fixed now. Been crying all day long since my apt this morning when they tried to charge me another hundred dollars to remake these ugly dentures that I wasted my money on. Hope u find your self a good woman that isn't worried about your teeth.
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Anna Joiner
First of all see if the new teeth are better
Second ask for a refund of the over charge and then let us take a look at what they have done for you and we will go from there
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They refused to remake them over had them a week. I've wore them everyday at least a couple hours. They have not charged me yet they tried to charge me 100.00 to remake these ugly ones. I refused and walked out of the office before I lost my temper. The lady pretty much called me a lair without calling me a liar said they don't let u choose the shade and the size, which I know for a fact they do I got to choose the first set of dentures I bought. My sister whom I recommend come to affordable dentures also got to choose the size and shade she wanted and another friend as well.