Being made fun of for wearing dentures ( seriously hurts)

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Have you ever been made fun of by a someone you love? Made fun of for something you have no control over? Let me tell you about my now again 2 X ex girlfriend. We used to date for 4 years and live together. But she cannot take the fact that I wear dentures. I do take them out every night. We're supposed to right? Dentures should soak every night? I wrong? I love this woman and she laughed in my face calling me haha you're toothless Todd. Gummy bear and sloppy Joe. Why and how could you make deliberate fun of someone that has lost their teeth? Any amount of dignity that I had is gone!! I need these damn implants so bad so I can feel like a real man again and be whole. I had issues trying to date in the first place that's why I mainly t took her back, plus the love thing. Now, no-way ever will I date with dentures this will always be in the back of my head. Anyone else here that has or had this problem. I can't be the only one?
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Todd

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Brenda Hayes

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A person in a relationship with you that is not empathetic to your situation is not a very caring person at least that is how I WOULD take that as well,  don't let one person who is not understanding what your going through ruin the possibility of a more healthy relationship down the road.  Are you being overly sensitive was she just teasing you or is she really doing this in a mean form,...only you know the delivery of her barbs and if you really feel she is being derogatory maybe its time to reconsider your relationship.

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Mary Cooke-Baker

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Anyone who says something hurtful like that is not worthy of your time. Kick her to the curb. Set her free to cut her teeth (so to speak) on other men, and find yourself a gentlewoman with dentures and manners. ;)
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Oh my, I am so sorry to hear that.  I make fun of myself sometimes with my husband, but never once has he said anything degrading to me.  It would break my heart.  I think if someone loves you, they won't care.  I get your trepidation, though.  I am glad I don't have to date.
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I've also cracked jokes with my boyfriend about when I have my teeth out, hey it does look kinda funny when I have no teeth. If I wasn't able to laugh it off I'm afraid I'd be stuck on the fact I don't have any teeth. I know so many people with dentures. But no one should make you feel less than just because you have them. I usually always have mine in when I'm around anyone even my boyfriend. Someone who truly loves you should love you no matter what.
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Barbara G

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Hi Todd
Consider  getting implants
The Least expensive implant system are over dentures
Price them out at a Dental college or go to Costa Rica
or Mexico where they are very inexpensive
Then again  you can always get rid of your girl friend which  is another alternative   
Let us know what you deceide to do/

If you deciede  on the implants You will  enjoy this over denture so it is a Quality of life issue in addition to a comfort thing 
Good Luck
Barbara 
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Barbara G

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HI Todd
We are very interested in whether you will be  proceeding with any  implant systems and which ones  you are interested it??
Have you researched any of the costs??
Let us know because we learn from each other on this blog
Thanks
barbara 
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charlid61

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If she is dating you for your teeth then you are dating the wrong person.
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Leeann Beattie

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There is nothing wrong with dentures don't were them at you have wash them every night I have two partials. I love them your girlfriend sounds like a bitch. No one really makes fun my parital only one time someone said you not brush teeth I have gum diease. I would date someone with dentures
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Monica Wills

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I completely agree with you Leeann
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Nigth
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Gretchen Smith BDS

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Dump her! But no, I don't take mine out at night. I do it when I'm alone. Buy the 3 minute polident cleaner..Soak while showering and pop them back in!
But dump that rotten, selfish, hurtful bitch asap!
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This seriously upsets me so much for you, I am sorry that it happened, IF she really loved you and cared for you the way she should then she would not treat you this way. Dentures or no dentures you deserve to be treated much better than she is treating you, and should be accepted for how you are and how you come.. period no exceptions!! Its normal for us denture wearers to feel a certain way especially in the beginning but you need someone supporting you, not bringing you down! 
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Well everyone said the things I was going to say so far. Eventually most everyone who cannot afford implants will have dentures. They will still love each other. Your girlfriend sounds very immature.  Implants have a set of their own problems. Have heard they have fallen out and people have swallowed them. They are put into your bone.. that is not natural. I wouldn't get them even if I could afford them.  My dentures are a pain in the butt but I will get used to them...one day lol
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I don't really see it as any different than screwing in a hip replacement or a knee replacement etc.  My mother has screws in her hips.  My husband has screws in his wrist to fix a break, and my sister has screws in her shoulder from a replacement.  I have 11 screws in my jaw.  We are one screwed up family.  LOL!  It isn't natural, but it sure is helpful for fixing things that don't work any more.
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And you have a great sense of humor about it haha! Yeah your do have a good point. I guess when I heard the implants can come loose , fall out and can be swallowed I got a little paranoid about that. Plus I don't like being put under... scary! Have a great weekend!
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I don’t think swallowing them would cause a problem but if they were loose enough to fall out, then they would never work. My dentist told me I swallowed a piece of equipment during one of my surgeries. I just unexpectedly swallowed and down it went.
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Hi  Cindy Bellamy
Good post but I wold like to say I have my implants with  more then 14 or 16? implants for  more then 10 years.  The uppers are in  12 years  or   longer and I never had one problem with them.  No additionnal up keep or charges or linning chargers or redo charges or adhesive charges

They have been a complete joy and I have forgotten how painful it was paying for them.  
Barbara
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Hi Barbara, well I didn't mean everyone would have problems, but I have heard of them. Good to hear you have had no issues!    Dentures can indeed be a pain. Especially those darn lowers ;) 

Take Care, keep smiling!
Cindy
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I got 2 implants back in 2002. During the years one um always got loose and I had to go back maybe 5 different times in a 2 year span. I finally went to another dentist and it stayed tight up until it got extracted 2 months ago. Anyways, I went to a specialist last year - to check up on the condition of my implants to see if it should be used for dentures - and he said both my implants shifted and needs to come out prior to dentures. I was pretty upset bc the dentist who originally gave me these implants told me I'd have it well over 30 years (I was much younger, I believed him) but the specialist said I've had it for as long as he'd think it should have lasted (17 years). So, I'd like to think my $4,000. that I spent for 2 implants and 2 crowns was DEFINITELY worth 17 years of smiles. If you can afford to get implants go for it! But I'm sure you know that it IS NOT going to last your whole lifetime.
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Hi Hanelakai's Mama
$2,000 for 2 implants and crowns  is very cheap and I never heard of such a low price especially in 2002
Are you sure that is all you paid??? 
My friend just had one implant and crown done at a private dentist and that is costing her $5,000.  She is very upset about that price but that is the going price from  dentists in my area.  However there is a firm here that only accepts implant patients and they are very good and they only charge $1,800 for the implant and the  abutment and the crown which is  a very good price
 
I also have my implants for a very long time and I never had any trouble with them until this year when  One of them had to have a bone graft put around it to stabilize it as I was having peridontal problems  At the
same time they did a peridontal procedure on the entire lower jaw and that cost $1,500 with the bone graft
are you going to have a clip on to implants denture now???
Please keep  us updated
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Todd - my husband makes fun of me all the time.  I spend all my time at home with no teeth in and a lot of time I don't talk quite right.  So, he laughs at me.  Can't really say that I blame him but we are old married folk at this point.  But, if your woman is truly making fun of you, that tells you everything you need to know about her.  You didn't say how old you guys are but I'm guessing her behavior is more that of a younger woman who hasn't learned some of the harsh realities of life yet.  Shit happens to people.  It's external and not who they are.  For better or worse is a real thing.  :)
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Thank you all for the wonderful support. I just felt the need to start a topic about that to see if it happens to anyone else, I know that I couldn't have been the only one and I do not have anyone around me other than forums to talk to that can relate. I've done kicked her to the curb for the second time and have realized that she is just a angry person inside and to make fun of my dentures is really childish. Actually some children wouldn't have went that low to call me the names that she did. It really breaks my heart. The thing is i need to get some self esteem and this issue wouldn't have bothered me so much. I do appreciate all your responses. Thank you all again.
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Also- with true love, it won't matter. I had heard a story from one of my teachers when I was a teenager. Her husband had dentures. She had known him for many years before they married. They were married a few years before she even knew he had dentures because they had so much going on in their lives that such a minor detail had no significance. He was a bit older than her, but his dentures made no difference in their lives. It's just a little fact. So my advice is to stop focusing on what you deem to be a big negative/ flaw/ hindrance and focus on the positives you bring to the table. 
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Hi Todd
I'm so sorry to hear that. She really didn't deserve you! I understand that hurts a lot but you deserve someone so much better. Please be proud of yourself and whatever you've been through that even brought you to the point to have to get dentures. She should look up to you and be proud of you. You got through something so challenging as we all here know. Now that is what a real man does! And she didn't pass the test!
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Hi Todd 

Everyone wants you to feel better
This whole thing with your girlfriend might have had more to do with long time issues in your relationship rather then the teeth.
You said:

"The thing is i need to get some self esteem and this issue wouldn't have bothered me so much"
I think you figured it out with that statement by yourself.
 You are   unhappy with having to wear a denture at such a young age.  It is sort of a mourning process?
 Your girl friends torturing you abut it just high lighted all your
own feelings about it

I imagine now without her there you will begin to sort it out and figure out what you want to do next

Good luck and let us know how you are
Barbara
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OMG, boot her to the curb. She's a terrible person. 
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I know this post is old. Just wanted to tell u.. It sucks.ive been there and done that. U r a whole man with or without teeth. I know how u feel tho. I'm only 32 and have had no teeth for 6 years on my bottom and 7 years on the top. I felt so horrid when I looked in he mirror. I am now on my 2nd set of dentures and fighting with the affordable dentures in bowling Green KY over the dentures they made for me. They used the biggest size teeth in my top dentures and they're super long and huge in my mouth. Trying to get them fixed now. Been crying all day long since my apt this morning when they tried to charge me another hundred dollars to remake these ugly dentures that I wasted my money on. Hope u find your self a good woman that isn't worried about your teeth.
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Anna Joiner
First of all see if the new teeth are better
Second ask for a refund of the over charge and then let us take a look at what they have done for you and we will go from there
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They refused to remake them over had them a week. I've wore them everyday at least a couple hours. They have not charged me yet they tried to charge me 100.00 to remake these ugly ones. I refused and walked out of the office before I lost my temper. The lady pretty much called me a lair without calling me a liar said they don't let u choose the shade and the size, which I know for a fact they do I got to choose the first set of dentures I bought. My sister whom I recommend come to affordable dentures also got to choose the size and shade she wanted and another friend as well.
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Hi Anna,
I'm from Bowling Green too!  I decided to go to Chandler Dental for my dentures.  I had all my teeth pulled and 8 implants on October 7th, have temporary dentures for 6 months and then changing over to snap on dentures.  I'm trying to get used to these "healing dentures" as they call them.   Tops are fine but I can't eat with the bottoms in.  They just fall out, first bite.  Common problem it seems like.  I can't wait to go to Blaze Pizza after I get the snap on's.  That was the last thing I ate before getting my teeth pulled and I want it to be the first thing I eat (at a restaurant) after I get my snap on's!  I'm so sorry about your denture experience.  Hope things are working out better for you now.
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HI  Carol
So many people have trouble with bottom dentures just being  unweaable
that I wonder  why they charge for them and make them
The snap on will correct all this if made properly
I would ask for a refund on the bottom temporaary dentures
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I got a different technician at the dental clinic and she figured out what the problem was and relined them properly.  They stay in now pretty much all day.  Usually I have to re-glue them before dinner, but other than that they're much better.
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That's really so sad and it says nothing about your manliness, attractiveness, or wholeness. What this is about is this lady's obnoxious, selfish, unkind, uncaring attitude. It also makes it clear that she isn't dedicated to you and is heartless enough to mock you for something you have no control over. Even worse, knowing you are sensitive about the topic, she should not rub salt in the wounds. I sincerely hope things have gotten better for you.
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Carol

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My husband made fun of me...once.  It was just before I got my teeth pulled and I was really nervous about the whole thing.  Kind of freaking out actually.  I guess he thought he'd lighten the mood by joking about it.  He said, "I can't wait to see you without your teeth.  You'll look like this." and he sucked in his lips.  I just gave him my death look and he walked out of the room without another word.  I guess after 35 years he knows when it's best to retreat!  But it did hurt, even though he was joking.
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If your dentures are new, this is a time of transition for your mouth. Your gums will be swollen after the extraction of your teeth, and you may need to have your “bite” modified to even out the pressure during this time of transition. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RoPLJ0VN0kE
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Your gums will be swollen after the extraction of your teeth.
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