Denture help please

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So my husband recently got dentures in April 2018 we had a slaughterhouse oral surgeon, he was awful but anyway we are now into our soft Reline after many problems and he still can’t really eat anything .
I feel so guilty telling him that he would feel so much better when he’s so miserable. He’s totally depressed has lost so much weight I try making things he can have but he just keeps saying he wants pizza or a cheeseburger but he has a lot of problems with bread. He keeps saying that he’s tired of being alive and he will never be able to eat whatever he wants again. I know it takes time but how long? I’m not sure how much more I can take my guilt consumes me I just don’t know what else to do. He’s going to a psychiatrist on antidepressants and has been for years they changed them up trying to help him and some times he’s wonderful but when he’s discouraged it totally breaks me I just don’t know what else to do
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kelly

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Margaret

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Don't know much of what to say except that he's only 2 months into the process which can sometimes be a long challenge. It does get better.
Bread was difficult for me in the beginning but after about 6 months I felt comfortable with sandwiches, burgers too. We have to learn to eat again with new teeth.

Some foods cause more problems than others. I have a difficult time with dairy products so I had to find other things I enjoy instead of ice cream.

Hopefully someone can help more than me but at 2 months in I too felt I'd never enjoy my favorite foods ever again but it's been almost a full year from my journey beginning and I eat just about everything I want.
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kelly

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Thank you that gives us hope he liked how you are just straight forward and honest about it again thank you
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Brenda Hayes

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Kelly, I am very sorry to hear about your husbands overwhelming depression with all of this, it is really a matter of time as some of us heal quicker than others and there are positives that he is not being able to see at the moment due to the current situation. Please remind him this is temporary is there a support group he is able to get to for the depression sometimes being out with others than family is beneficial to seeing things from a different perspective as I have been deeply depressed many times in my life as well and just said the same thing after getting my upper denture on Friday,..Will I ever be able to eat normal again? He is not alone. Take Care hope that this helps!
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We are never truly prepared for the emotional part of this I got mine on the fourth so I'm new. Slot of the tips on here helped me I eat about like I did already. But if he just can't make it with them a lot of guys I know just don't wear them at all and eat just find gumming stuff up. If he can't handle pizza crust what about just the toppings? Hope everything gets better soon.
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kelly

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He refuses to take his teeth out he’s very self conscious about it. He’s got good days and bad we went to our dentist and had a different tech she was appalled by her coworkers work and fixed them he said they are much better now he literally sounded as though his mouth was full after about 45 minuets of grinding off all the extra material that didn’t need to be on there he sounds great and can eat a bit better at least he’s not gagging anymore thank goodness taking it one day at a time
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Sorry to hear about your husband. For me it took a good 6 months to be able to enjoy food. I did have to learn to eat differently but this will come in time. As they say, "baby steps." I too missed hamburgers but did do well eating them without bread. I got so used to this that I still do it after 2 years. As stated no one talks about the emotional state of having dentures before you do. I honestly think dentists don't want to talk about all that is involved both physically and mentally. This I feel is a disservice to those of us in this situation. This group helps to see that so many go through the same things and perhaps your husband will join. There are many useful tips and support. Good luck to you and your husband. It does get better (for me not great) but it is a long process and I'm sure he will love the way he looks which should help him going forward.
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This is really serious and I can understand how he can feel this way. Please please please consult with another dentist/surgeon. Look up a top doc and a consultation should reassure your husband that there is hope...letting this linger is adding to his misery.
Best wishes.
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we went to our dentist yesterday and had a different tech she was appalled by her coworkers work and fixed them he said they are much better now he literally sounded as though his mouth was full after about 45 minuets of grinding off all the extra material that didn’t need to be on there he sounds great and can eat a bit better at least he’s not gagging anymore thank goodness taking it one day at a time