DEVISTATED!

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I got full upper dentures 10 months ago. Ive been completely and utterly devistated. I have no desire to live anymore. Everyday i wake up i cry. I wish i never did this. I want to die!! I cannot go on like this. My face has aged 15years. Why didnt my dentist explain the difficulties of this. Had he been honest with me i woulda never ever done it.
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Ashley LBW

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  • SEVERYLY DEPRESSED

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lisa j Llewellyn

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Wow, those are some serious and powerful words; I sincerely hope your having a moment and venting. Let me start by saying a few things. First off I believe when we venture into this process we never really know how vain we really are. TBH, I've cried a handful of times in the beginning and still with my immediates I'm not happy with the look, but I'm learning to rethink the vanity. We are who we are "within" and if that is not true than we are shallow and need to seriously look deep into souls and realize that is who and what we are....we have depth, embrace it.
You my dear, need to look deep.....if the people around you only see you for who you are to look at than you need new people in your life. Please don't be upset with your choices, you made them for a reason and you must accept that and move forward.... no looking back....
I hope my words are not upsetting, I sincerely believe in those things, life is much too short to worry about the small stuff.
Seek counseling if you cannot get past this. Also we here on this forum are more than willing to help with this journey. Stay positive and focused and keep us posted
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I agree with Lisa. I hope you’re just down right now. It happens to all of us. I was down and out yesterday myself. Would have taken it all back if I could. But we can’t. It is what it is. We have to make the best of it. Are you in pain? If so, get to the dentist. Easier said then done sometimes, but as soon as they can work you in. If you don’t like the way they look, I’d be willing to bet what you think you see isn’t the same as what others do. I suspect no one has you in their life because of your teeth. Rather for who you are.
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db

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Hey Ashley, I couldn't agree more with both Lisa and Charlie! We ALL have our down times and it sucks! But we can't reverse it, we just have to move on! Keep fighting! I took a week to cry, rant, rave, pout, stomp around, and generally feel sorry for myself! And you know what! It was exhausting!!!! So I decided to get over myself and enjoy each day :) I sincerely hope you will be able to do the same!
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I wish I didn't understand. Mine don't fot properly. I look like an old hillbilly. My husband hasn't touched me since. I talk for a living, and by the end of the day no one understands me. I'm about to lose my job. My dentist says they are fine and I'll get used to them. 15 months later I want to die still...
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lisa j Llewellyn

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Your teeth are not worth dying for.....
Things happen for a reason, if you loose your job then so be it...it's a job.... they're are plenty more out there. We're talking about a life, living and breathing, please don't do anything foolish. As for your husband, well he needs to realize too that your still the same on the inside, looks are not what love is about.
Regarding your denture, demand they fix them so your happy and comfortable. I don't care what they say/tell you, it's not there opinion that matters, if you get nowhere with them look elsewhere or explore other options. This is not a be all end all situation, it's fixable.
I still have my immediates and I'm not thrilled with the look either and am a bit self-conscious but "WHATEVER" I still like who I am, and so do those closest to me, and that is all that really matters here.
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Couldn’t be more accurately stated.
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lisa j Llewellyn

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Thank you Charlie!! :)
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charlie brown

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It’s something we have to learn to do. It’s not built into us. It’s new. It’s tough. But everything is hard at first. There was once a time in our lives that eating with a spoon was difficult. But we overcome. Tying shoes?? Child’s play now, but it wasn’t always like that. I have faith in all of us. There will be bumps in the road, hell, there will be mountains in the road. We will all make it though. If we choose. Do you let dentures define who you are? No. I’m not my dentures. I’m the same person I always was, just with upgrades.
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lisa j Llewellyn

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Love your comment Charlie, it's spot on. I just posted to someone that I, just yesterday, crossed another hurtle that I wasn't completely aware of..let me expand..
I actually ate a burger yesterday without thinking about it. Early on this is what we do so we can figure things out, ie: what to eat, how to eat, pain or no pain, etc..etc... But yesterday my brain didn't think it just did....another first, Charlie. We will get there-eventually!
Love your positivity!!! You are a shining example of success!!
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OH NO NO try...and I do mean try to be patient.  The way you feel right now will change as your mouth and body becomes more accustomed to your dentures.  This happens.  There were moments and times that I said why did I do this???  In a short amount of time however I was actually saying this is the BEST thing I have ever done for myself.  Please be patient.

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lisa j Llewellyn

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Agreed.....
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Ashley LBW

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I was okay until a dentist went in and cut 6mm off my ipper bone. I asked 100times if that would cause my fave to srop and 100 times he said no. And here we are. He destroyed my face and lied to me. Now he dropped me as a patient because im demanding hefix what hes done
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charlie brown

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Removing 1/4” of bone? Or of denture? I’d talk to an attorney
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Ashley it's sad to read your struggles and pain. Sometimes people have "too much" bone and if a Denture is the only option (mostly due to finances) some of the bone has to be removed to allow the denture to "fit". Please please don't give up. There are options with a new denture. Extraction sites take 6mths-1yr to fully heal. In your case it make take longer due to the alveoplasty surgery. In many situations like this the denture usually can be made thicker in the front so it gives you that full face and upper lip again as close to it used to be naturally. Noone will know its bulkier except you because its in your mouth. Keep in mind when getting dentures someone never looks the same but it will be a new you! Did you get immediate dentures and is that what you still have? Keep your head up and I hope I can be of some help to guide you to a happier, healthy smile.
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