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Hello all, first time poster. I am going to turn 27 in june and I'm pretty sure im going to need dentures in the near future. I would love implants but right now the cost is out of the quetion. From age 14- 20 i was struggling with bulimia and pretty much after i had my braces off at 14 my mom stopped taking me to dentist idk why, we even had insurance. Since 19 up until now, I've had multiple root canals and extractions. Pretty sure im going to get one root canal treated molar extracted this week as i am in pain at the root of the gum on that tooth, so I'm guessing it failed. I never smile, i always try to hide my teeth when i smile if that makes sense, and i feel completly miserable amd geel like i look older for my age. Also ive had multiple extractions, so will my dentures be uneven since ill have more bone loss in some areas then others? Any advice? Also, i've been in a relationship for 6 years with my boyfriend and we live together. My boyfriend doesnt know the full extent of my failing smile. Scared he'll judge me or leave me for someone with a healthy beautiful smile. I once made a comment a few years ago when i had a molar extracted "I'm just gonna pull all my teeth and get dentures so i wont have to worry about this anymore" he was quiet and i said I'm just kidding! But now that I'm crossong that bridge, I'm filled with anxiety and sadness. I wanted to post a pic of my teeth, but I'm really embarassed. I'm glad i found this community and gladly appreciate any input. I've had 4 molars extracted before my eating disorder for my braces, all 4 wisdom teeth, and then some. I only chew on one side and even then it hurts or i almost choke bcuz of how poorly my food is chewed. Basicly i only have 8 molars left including pre molars and first and second molars. I have all my bottom and top teeth some are chipped and some have fillings.
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Amanda

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Mary Loedding Sells

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Hello, and welcome :)
How good your dentures are, how well they fit, all depends on the dentist of course
As you heal from having all those bad teeth taken out, you will gradually feel better. No more root canals! No more painful cleanings!
The new adjustments will be, things like, re-learning how to chew with both sides of your mouth. It's important to use your whole mouth, not just one side.
 As you'll see when you read some of the other posts, you'll be on soft foods and smoothies for awhile.
All the getting used to dentures takes a little time, but, it's all down hill. You can look forward to things gradually getting better!
As for your relationship, well, this Old Lady can tell you, Relationships go thru all kinds of tests.
Take one thing at a time, which starts with your physical health.
Good Luck, keep in touch here, there are some very nice, very helpful folks here!

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Amanda

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Thank you, Mary. I will deffinitly be posting more as my journey continues. Take care!
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Nola Walker Martin

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If a boyfriend would leave you due to the status of your teeth, he isn't worth having in the first place.  Would you leave him if his teeth suddenly all fell out?  Bet not.  Try talking to him about it all.  He may not be as shallow as you think.  If he is, there are more fish in the sea, and probably better catches.

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Thank you Nola, i did make a comment when he got home that i made a dentist appointment for Thursday. No specifics just that i need to take care of a root canal molar i have thats bothering me. He said get it taken care of, and then i said you do know i had an eating disorder for many years and now its just time to start rebuilding my smile where it should be. He said yes i am glad your not throwing up anymore. I feel like i made a start to approaching my situation. But yes, if he leaves me there are other people out there. Just would be scared of dating someone new and explaining my situation all over again.
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Here is another thought.  What if he leaves you and you start dating someone new and that guy has a bunch of issues, himself.  What I see here is that you need to step up your confidence in yourself.  None of us are without  what others might see as negative issues.  Make it into a positive.  You are afraid when you don't know if there is anything to be afraid of.  People who care about each other don't run off when tough things happen to them.  Your fella doesn't sound like he's going to bolt and run if you fix your mouth and get new teeth.  Perhaps asking for his opinion would be a good start.  He obviously knows what a terrible problem you have been having.  The bottom line is that your health is first and foremost the most important issue here.  You should do what you need to do to fix that, I believe.
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Hi, lets start by saying if your boyfriend leaves you because you need to take care of you and have your teeth removed then you dont want him anyway. Now as far as the fit goes they are molded to fit you, you get immediate dentures they take impressions for those before all the extractrions, most insurance doesnt pay for them so they are an out of pocket expense, but they are placed in your mouth the day your teeth are pulled, then as you heal the dentist does adjustments on them,and do soft relines then at the 6 month to 1 year mark you are done healing and your dentist will have had you fitted and a wax try in for your final denture.
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Thank you Patricia, you have been very helpful. Unfortunatly, i have no insurance at the moment and graduated a year ago with my bachelor's's degree in social work. I am working in retail and feel like my smile or lack of....is preventing me from getting more professional jobs with medical benifits. I live in Tx and dont even have nearby dental schools within 5 hours of where i live.
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I am sorry your having such a hard time, I paid $1600 od close to that out of pocket, I borrowed from my Dad and he actually told me I dont have to pay him back, God Bless him for sure. Hang in there and keep posting for advice or just to vent if needed this group helped me a lot in the beginning.
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Hi Amanda, 

I completely relate in almost every sense. I am 28 and had my full extractions done and I have my temporaries. I have been in a relationship for about 8 years now, and he made me feel like an ogre and made me feel even worse about myself than I already did to begin with about the situation. Needless to say...we are going our separate ways. If my smile is more important to you than my soul, your not the person for me. I hope that everything works out for you and keep us updated <3   
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Hi Kristy, thats terrible to hear about your bf of 8 years. I just dont understand it bcuz thats a long time. I dont know how some people can be so cruel especially the ones you loved. But i need to work on my confidence and be more like you and have the mentality of "if my bf can't deal with this then he was not the one."Breaks my heart thinking of the possibility but i need to be stronger. Thank you so much, I'm glad to talk to someone close in age to me going through a similar situation. Will deffinitly keep in touch!
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Unfortunately, I don't think we ever had a healthy relationship, and I think all of this was just the final eye opener in a sense. And just remember that you are stronger than you think you are and you are capable of doing so much. And of course, it is really nice to have someone close in age that understands! And you know it will be a judgement free zone with me lol. If you have Snapchat, you can add me if you want :)      UnaBellaRosa 
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Thank you kristy, i feel the same way. I don't think I'm in a healthy relationship, but i feel i still love him or perhaps i just don't want to be alone and feel like it will be difficult finding someone new, especially after all this time i invested with him. Just kinda scary. I do have snap, I will add you in a few minutes mine is honeybee :)
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Sorry for all the spelling errors, I'm typing from my phone and it's not letting me edit anymore than i have.
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Amanda, welcome to the group and good for you for facing your issues.  To be honest, none of us were particularly thrilled to get dentures as we would have been happier with our natural teeth.  But, circumstances, health issues, heredity and other things get in the way.  While I am a good bit older than you, I know what it is like to go more than 2 years not being able to smile, because I did. I bit the bullet, found a dentist that I felt comfortable with and did it.  Now, I smile all the time.  You may want to have a serious discussion about this with your boyfriend and find out just how supportive he can be.  When you have all of your teeth extracted, whether you have immediate dentures or not, you are likely to be pretty miserable for a bit.  But, you will get better and get through it and will find yourself better off than before.  I have immediates and am eating things I have not attempted in years.  Simple things like a roast beef sandwich, or a hamburger.  If financing is an issue, check with CareCredit.  Their interest rates are pretty awful, but they have helped immensely in my journey.  Also, if you find a dentist you like and trust, ask them to give you a discount.  I consulted with 3 dental offices and ended up with the first.  But, I could not afford them and told them.  They reduced their pricing so that I could.  Good luck and keep us posted!!!
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Hello Lynn, thank you for your advice! I will be looking into payment options and CareCredit. Take care, and I will keep the group posted.