Having a hard time emotionally with new dentures

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One week ago, I had eight teeth extracted along with my two bridges and had upper dentures placed. I was able to tolerate the pain and swelling and even not being able to eat everything I am craving right now. I am having a very hard time emotionally. The denture makes me look so different and has a buck toothed look right now. I did have implants placed so in six months I will be able to have the palate removed and gum line of the denture thinned and it will snap into my implants. Right now I just cry everyday and really dread going back to work in a couple of days. I am so embarrassed and mistakenly thought I could have all this done, go back to work, and no one would ever know. My husband has been very supportive and thinks I am beautiful no matter what and has tried to be encouraging but I can't quit crying like a baby. I by no means was a beauty but had a good smile and was silly and carefree. Now I just wish I could stay home in my room until it is time for the snap in denture. Has anyone else felt like this or am I just a weak person?
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Cindy

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Padraig MacUidhir

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I am very different from you. I sometimes go out without mine in because I don't care what people think of me. My partner knows about the dentures and she, like your husband, is very supportive. She's all I have in life. By no means are you weak. It is going to take time to adjust and it is a long road for some. Be strong and all will work out. I know it easier said than done, but you do have a support team and use them for the support you need. Talk about it to people you trust. This can and will help. Everyone on this forum is here for you, too. We're one big happy family of denture wearers.
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I'm almost 2 weeks in to wearing an upper denture and I have cried every single day. My husband is very supportive and loving, and I adore him for it, but that doesn't fix it. I've even had a few suicidal thoughts. I just don't know if I will ever adjust, you aren't alone in your crying Cindy. I wish there was a quick solution.
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Hi Jan, I’m so sorry to hear you are having such a tough time adjusting to your denture. It can be very hard to get used to it, but please know that you are not alone in this. It takes time, but eventually you will adjust to your new smile. Many people have had great success with their dentures after having rough starts! Feel free to call our team at 1-855-236-3353 if you have any questions along the way, or search this forum for answers. And Jan, if you are having suicidal thoughts, please consider calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1 (800) 273-8255. They are great at helping people find hope in tough situations. Please keep your head up, and keep us posted on your progress. Thanks for joining our community! :)
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Jan

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Thank you Stephanie. I appreciate your welcome and I shouldn't have posted my suicidal thoughts, but I will consider the Lifeline number. Every day is one day onward.
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It is hard. I keep thinking, "Cindy you are the same person inside. This denture doesn't define you! Quit worrying about what people think!" Of course that is easier said than done. I was suppose to go back to work today but asked it I could have one more day of recovery and return Monday. I feel like a chicken but maybe a few more days will help me. I don't cry every time I look in the mirror anymore. The swelling has diminished some and there have been a couple of adjustments to my denture since I first posted. It looks a little better and that has helped. I think forums and support groups do help also. There is another one called "Dentures- A New Smile" that I am a member of. I like to hear from someone else who has gone through this and their success and even tips to help myself. It is good that your husband is supportive and yes you are right- that doesn't fix it but it is sweet to have someone who cares for you. Please keep in contact with me. I am not very educated on dentures but want you to know you are not alone.
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My advice is to embrace the phrase, "it is what it is".  You cannot undo what was necessary to have.  I had all 16 remaining teeth removed on Feb. 27th.  It does get better.  I do not like my new look at all, but it is what it is.  I comfort myself with the knowledge that I will never have another toothache and that is a very good thing.  Be patient with yourself.  Present your new self to the world with confidence, even if you have to fake it at first.  Don't worry about the reactions of others, that's their sh*t, if you know what I mean.  It's the new you, so embrace it.  Hugs.
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I went a different way. I had all of mine pulled. And I waited until I was healed (about 2 months). Then I went through the process to be fitted.I was the best decision I made for myself. I did a 1 co-worker tell me I shouldn't be working. I work with special needs kids in a work environment. I didn't have an issue going out. My friends and family and the rest of my co-workers didn't have an issue. Hold your head up. This hasn't changed who you are.. It will get better....
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I'm not so much worried about how I look as I am that I can't handle the plate in the top of my mouth. I'm so depressed I don't even want to eat, so I just drink. I can't make it work right and it hurts to chew. My husband and I used to love to go out and eat and now I feel like I can't even to do that, it's a waste of money for me when there's usually nothing I can eat. I pray my feelings will change. I just get up everyday and go on.  Good luck to you, I so hope you feel better soon.
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Jan

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Thank you Cathy, I appreciate you taking the time to reply with your encouragement. It seems just an acknowledgement that someone heard you can lift the burden if only for a minute.
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Cathy Shallow

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Any time, Jan.  Hang tough and be gentle with yourself.  Time does heal all wounds.  Hugs.
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Hey Jan! Well I went back to work this week and it hasn't been bad. I am terribly self conscious and find myself staying in my office more than I use to. I haven't been able to stay the whole day yet but I am getting there. I am hoping I will get a little more time before we have a lunch meeting because I really don't want to explain why I am not eating the pizza, tacos, etc. I would tell everyone I am dieting but then will have to face the inevitable when I never lose the weight, lol. I hope you are doing okay.


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GJ, that's a great attitude .. I've had my dentures for 2 yrs. now ...I was NOT a candidate for implants, due to bone loss... Give yourself plenty of time for your gums to heal...I've heard implants take a lot longer, so in the interim, the temporary will have to do... I believe ''Life is about attitude, so have a good one''....  Once this is all over, you'll be ever so glad you had this done.. Good Luck in your Journey.. 
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Dee Reilman

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GJ, that's a great attitude .. I've had my dentures for 2 yrs. now ...I was NOT a candidate for implants, due to bone loss... Give yourself plenty of time for your gums to heal...I've heard implants take a lot longer, so in the interim, the temporary will have to do... I believe ''Life is about attitude, so have a good one''....  Once this is all over, you'll be ever so glad you had this done.. Good Luck in your Journey..