How and why did you tell people (ones closest to you)you needed dentures? I

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I know it will be pretty obvious when I get full lower dentures I'm sure by how I talk and look that I got something done. Not sure if anyone will be able to tell if it's a full or partial but they'll know something......and hopefully for the better
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Madison when I finally decided to get dentures I just told my family and close friends. Everyone understood and were very excited and happy for me. Worried I would b in a lot of pain but as I told them it couldn't b any worse than pain I was living with every day with bad infected teeth. My best friend almost cried afterwards cuz she said she hasn't seen me smile so openly and happily in prob 15 or 20 years and now she loves seeing me happy and confident again. The learning to talk again didn't take me long. I'm a big reader so i read out loud to myself a lot to practice. Every1 that knew me b4 obviously knows I had work done wether dentures or anything else its obvious. But only cuz my teeth were pretty bad b4. But any1 who didn't know me has no clue. But I will say this all my family and friends r very happy for me and love my new smile. As I'm sure all urs will love urs also. Its a big step but its been the best 1 i could ever make.
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Btw do you just have dentures or implants? I'll just be getting dentures andimplsnts are impossible to afford. How long before you went about your normal routine
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Just dentures. I only have top denture now my bottom teeth r kinda ok now but will prob b getting them too in a year or 2. Was cheaper out of pocket with my insurance to do that way. And no implants. I'm like u that's not possible financially right now. I'm about 5 months out. But I was back to regular daily routine about 5 days after. Now i felt ok sooner but days 3 and 4 were pretty bad cuz of swelling. But girl just couple months later I was eating like normal. Just have to take smaller bites. And chew slower. I was talking fine tho after couple weeks prob.
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That's very positive and good to hear. Thank you
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Hi Madison, I told my Mom, Dad and sisters. Plus my neighbors. They knew I was struggling with bad teeth for many years. I got full upper and lower dentures. Could barely afford those so implants future or otherwise are out of the question. I felt better after a week and it took me a month to get talking down only because I didn't practice. Be sure to get Benzodent from Amazon. It is a God send for mouth sores and bone spurs. I mean hell you can wear your dentures with no pain with that stuff. Little goes a long way. I still have some left over from when I got sores from my perms in January. Good luck and God Bless.
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Just say I had some dental work done.  Heck, with all the marketing out there like Invisalign, ClearChoice and more, nobody you don't want to know will know if you got a $50,000 all on four set, implants, Caps, Veneers or Dentures!

Now practice:

I recently had some dental work.  Why do you ask?  Are you jealous of my perfect teeth?

Ok.... maybe that last question was a bit passive aggressive.  LOL
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Ted, thank you for your reassurance. I would be hard being in my 40's and having to explain why I needed dentures. thanks again
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The people whose opinions matter to you should care more about the new smile than any stigma.  Believe me, I had the same concerns and realized pretty quickly that dentures aren't the scarlet letter that they used to be.

You got this!  You're overthinking it, I promise :)
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Thank I really appreciate your comment. I'm
Really on the verge of a panic attack everyday. I'm only in my 40's and blame myself and genetics. I am just so scared after I'm done I'll regret it. Won't be able to speak or eat with full lowers. Really never been so scared.....I wasn't this scared over my c-section lol
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Been there, done that.  You're making the right decision.  I just turned 44, to put it into perspective.  I wish I had done the denture thing years ago.

Its not a cakewalk for must of us but compared to the time, energy and money that got sunk into trying to put humpty dumpty back together again...its totally worth it.

Here's a story that may help:  I had a bad case of strep that ended up in my tonsils about 10 years ago.  I had to have them drained, which hurt like hell.  Every time I caught so much as a cold after that, they'd fill up and need to be drained again.  After a few years of that, my doc pretty much forced me into a tonsilectomy at 42.  I read every horror story on the internet, had myself convinced I was going to die in agony, and spent weeks crying myself to sleep.  The procedure went fine and the worst part of the whole ordeal was a reaction to the anesthesia that had me hugging the toilet for 12 hours.  I was eating normal food in 3 days and felt better than I had in years...
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Thanks....that does put things in perspective. Do you have uppers? Lowers? I'm scheduled for full lowers. How long did it take for you to be able to talk right, eat and began to go about your normal routine?
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I got uppers and lowers - 26 teeth pulled under sedation. I was talking on day 2, but it was a mess until day 5 or so. Went back to work on day 6.

Eating is kind of a benchmark thing that goes all over the map. I was doing frosties and applesauce for a few days, then slowly worked up from there. Smoothies and milkshakes are amazing, but keep in mind that dairy causes "slime" for some folks.

As far as normal... Maybe day 30 or so is when I finally got past the emotional stuff, the physical comfort level went up enough for me to forget I was wearing dentures for long stretches of time, and for me to start realizing that life was good.

Lowers can be a challenge, especially without adhesive. Don't get frustrated, it will get easier.
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There is a "stigma" worse than dentures -- a mouth full of missing and rotting teeth.  You'll be amazed at the confidence boost a nice set of TEEFERS will give you!

There's lots of reasons people lose their teeth so there really shouldn't be any stigma at all IMHO!  I blame the Dentists for many things.  I think I'll pin this one on them too.
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I seem to be in the minority - I told EVERYONE and spent a couple weeks showing them off.  You're dead bang right about the confidence boost.  Its a lot of work hiding a mouth full of bad chiclets, much less stress when you dont have to cover up every time you open your mouth
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Most people I know also know that I have dentures.  Women tend to be more sensitive about these things.  Can I say that in 2017?  LOL