I'm Going To Go MAD With Eating Next To Nothing

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I can't eat anything, like ANYTHING. Let me explain. Going into this I was 109 pounds already due to health issues that didn't have much to do with my teeth. Other nutrition and absorbtion issues caused this. I'm sure I weigh WAY less by now. My surgery was on the 11th of August, it's now the 26th. 15 days. Two weeks. Nearly NO FOOD. When I can eat it's barely anything and it's so slow and so tedious that I just give up.

All people keep saying is "Well you need to eat" yeah no crap. I've literally been fatansizing about food. Right now I'm crying because I cannot eat ANYTHING. People who say this is MUCH better are liars. All of them. I already HAD problems with my weight, and I love food. I am in probably the biggest depression of my life because I cannot chew anything. With the Fixodent thing that happened the other night I'm too scared to EVER try that again. EVER. And even when I did have that, it was still too painful/slow to eat much of anything.

I am sick and tired of baby food, and protien shakes, and milkshakes. Everyone keeps telling me "well you just have to get through this". Okay how? HOW? And see when you eat the same food all the time you get REALLY sick of it. I've been attempting to FORCE myself to eat but I start gagging. I am very tired of the same foods. I can barely find anything at all, and when I do I can't chew it properly and that just upsets my stomach. Anyone reading this right now. If you are considering dentures and people are telling you it's WAY better and that you'll FEEL way better. You won't. I haven't had any sort of depression since I was a teen. Now I barely get out of bed. I dream about food. I have nightmares because I have to sleep on an empty stomach. Though the dentist tells me that I can more than likely start the implant procedure in a few months well that's great news. How do I survive until then? What do I do without food? I really honestly want to curl up and die.

I eat the same stuff so much that when I attempt to eat it again and again I just start feeling nauseated. I can't even FORCE myself to eat any more. I am going to have to do this for MONTHS? Literal MONTHS? Why did ANYONE think this would be better. There are sores in my mouth, I'm in a lot of pain. I know it's only been two weeks but it seems that it takes like 4-8 weeks to get used to these things even LONGER for the bottom dentures. NO ONE TELLS YOU WHAT HELL ON EARTH THIS WHOLE THING IS they ALL act like you are going to be SO HAPPY but I have never been MORE DEPRESSED IN MY LIFE. I wish I would have looked at better options before doing this and knowing I have to go through it ALL OVER again to get the top done is just a nightmare in itself. How does ANYONE live like this and how do people who have had dentures for years forget that it was hell at first because ALL OF THEM LIED TO ME ABOUT HOW EASY IT WAS!
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Wanda Burke

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I know 'exactly' how you feel, Lily - let me see if I can help you a little bit with your eating..... Tell me everything you have tried so far.

Wanda
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Baby food, all types, even stuff that initially sounded disgusting just cause I'm so bored with the stuff I like. Pancakes, corned beef hash, every kind of soup ever, seriously I went to the store and bought like one of every flavor....Protien shakes, a lot of those, I eat Nutella when I have a sweet tooth my main problem is no meat and no salty snacks. I basically lived on chips/crackers before now I can't at all. I have seriously attempted to eat crackers so many times it's not even funny because I miss them so much. I like SNACK foods I can't stand having to get up and cook an actual meal every time I want something I want snacks. I've also had mashed potatoes, lots of them. Every type of soft potato you can think of I've done that. Every type of soft fruit I've done that. I can't have oatmeal (was advised by my GI to stay away from whole grains) I can tolerate grits just fine so I've had a lot of that. Milkshakes, every flavor, never thought I'd get sick of that. Tuna fish flavored/seasoned every way under the sun. There's not much more I can think of that is soft enough that I can have that I also actually want to have so I guess I'm open to suggestions.


Keep in mind I cannot have eggs (have an egg allergy) and I can have SOME grains but not others (I don't have celiacs I have gastroparisis so it's advised that I don't eat much or any whole grain cause it takes so long to leave my system).

ETA: Because of the gastroparisis it is advised I pretty much continually snack over the day in small portions that's what's helped me gain weight back the past few months. As of now I'm barely eating ANYTHING and I cannot do the three meal a day thing it makes me very sick.
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Lily, with all your health issues, you should consult with your medical doctor....sounds like you could also use some tranquilizers and/or antidepressants to clear your mind.
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Oh and by the way I already talked to my GI doctor he gave me the list of foods i just gave you. PLEASE don't patronize me or presume to know what I already know.
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I see a therapist. I haven't been depressed since I was 17 years old. Seriously. I haven't been on medications since my early 20s. This has been so devastating to me, I've gone into a depression. This is the worst thing that could ever happen to ANYONE. I also don't see how antidepressants are going to help me eat. I have a background in psychology myself. This isn't clinical depression, I don't have biploar/boarderline/depression trust me I don't. I have OCD and anxiety haven't met the criteria for actual depression for YEARS. I am also not going to go on medication for something that should only be temporary and will take as long to work as it's going to take for me to allegedly heal and if I'm going to be clincally depressed for the rest of my life because of dentures that everyone PROMISED were AWESOME that's just stupid.

This is situational depression. This is where outside or physical forces that are not in your control or easily fixed cause depression. I was doing just fine before people talked me into the dentures thing. I was happy, I was fun, I was eating. Antidepressants aren't going to fix the fact that I can't eat. Antidepressants aren't going to take away the pain in my mouth. Since I don't have any actual mental illness what do you think those are going to do to me? For me? I suggest nothing because if it's your health/situation that's causing the depression the pills just mask it or make you feel so apathetic you are worse off. As for sedatives, I already have those to help me sleep, kind of, but I'm so hungry all the time I mostly just zone out. Medications are clearly not the solution but I honestly love how you offered to make suggestions and jumpred right to "You must be mentally ill see a therapist" without considering that I'm far more educated on psychology than you might consider.
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Ohhhh!  Since you claim to be so educated and have all the answers, why don't you just accept your situation and deal with it, Ms psychology expert!
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I was writing a note and it disappeared on me lol. Anyway I ate in resturant for first time today (with teeth). 1/2 grilled cheese sandwich, didn't eat crust and cup of soup. Made my day!
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Ok, my other note didn't show up so here it is again. I had all my teeth pulled on June 29th. Until my first hard reline on both uppers and lowers I couldn't eat with my teeth. I learned to eat lots of things without them. I went thru the grocery freezer area and looked for soft foods. I could eat French fries if I didn't get them crispy, crab cakes baked soft, pastas, Lima beans, anything soft. Keep trying. My parents both had dentures since I was born and they eat everything. Time is probably the best thing. Oh, I am 68 years old so you are never too old to learn lol.
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And my first hard reline was last Thursday. So I am new with eating with my teeth!