Only 33yrs old and getting a full upper denture in 6 days and I am terrified!!!

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I am a 33 year old female and I have to have 13 teeth extracted and an immediate upper denture put in. I am excited for a new smile but terrified!!!!! I am so glad I found this message board. I have not talked about this with anyone because I am embarrassed. It is so uplifting to see that I am not alone and that there are actually a lot of young people going through this. I know this is going to sound really superficial, but to be honest I am more worried about how they will look than I am about the pain. Right now you can't see how bad my teeth are because almost all my problems are along the gum line. So if I don't smile too big (I never smile anymore so not a problem), you can't really see the problem. I used to smile so big all the time and i cant wait until i can smile again and eat or drink without pain, but I am super worried that I will look like I have horse teeth or a monkey face after they are put in. If they do look bucky, how long does this normally last? Is there as much swelling if only my upper teeth are being extracted? I took three days of work off (the Thursday of the surgery, and Friday and Saturday ). I was originally going to check out the denture the week before the extractions to make sure I liked the way it looked and then have it done on Thursday morning at 8am, but due to a miscommunication with the lab, I am now going in to see the denture on Tuesday and have the surgery Friday at 2pm. The lab said that they could have it to them by Thursday so I could keep my original appointment if I didn't t need to see it in wax first (not a try in as I still have all my teeth, but to look at) but my dentist thought that was a bad idea and told them no, that I needed to see it first in case I wanted to change anything. They usually close early on Fridays but my dentist knows that it was hard for me to get the time off work, so they are staying open late for me. I still only have the Thursday, Friday, and Saturday off work. So that will be Friday at 2pm until Sunday morning at 6am. I am a manager at a drug store to give you an idea of how physical it is or how much talking I do. Will that be enough time before going back? I also had a question about permanent dentures.
I have seen a lot of people mention immediate dentures being "temporary" and needing new ones after healing. I asked about this, but he told me that a good denture should last at least 7-10 years and that I shouldn't need a new one. They do soft relines throughout the healing process while the gums are shrinking and then a "hard reline" after the healing and shrinking are more or less done and that the immediate will be permanent, but he assured me that I could get another one if I wanted to. They also don't have a variety of dentures to choose from as far as pricing goes (no economy, middle, or top of the line) that I have seen others mention. He showed me an upper denture that his lab does and it was pretty amazing. The gums looked real and had so much detail. They even had little red fibers here and there to replicate blood vessels. Even the teeth had texture on the surface. My dentist office does general dentistry but focuses on cosmetic and reconstructive dentistry. It is expensive and my insurance will cover the 80% of the extractions and stuff but not the denture. He said he could refer me to a denture place that they sometimes work with that can make the denture and is about half the price of his fee, but I don't like that they are not dentists and I would have to go to them with any relines and repairs etc...I was also unsure of the quality since it was so much cheaper, so I chose to go with my dentist to do everything and pay the more expensive cost. I figure if I have to do this I am going to treat myself. If I decide to get new ones made sometime down the road after the healing, then I guess I will decide then and just play it by ear. Thank you for taking the time to read bdvthis. I have NEVER posted anything about anything anywhere. This is a first for me. Hopefully some of you can answer my questions. I am sure I will have many more. Thanks again!!!
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Hi Alicia,
You are my Daughter's age and she also has had to have some major repair done on the top.  I understand being scared and I think it's normal.  I personally just had 27 teeth extracted and immediate dentures placed just a week ago this past Thursday.  I was supposed to go back to work last Tuesday and I haven't been back yet.  You have to allow some healing time.  The worst days of all was my 3rd and 4th days.  The swelling was worst on the 3rd day and bruising on my face showed up that day.  But also by the 4th day the swelling had gone down enough that my dentures wouldn't stay in my mouth.  But now I'm over a week afterwards and my top dentures after one adjustment and getting the stitches out are fitting well and I can even talk well.  The bottoms are another story but you don't have to worry about that.  Keep your chin up and be patient with yourself.  It will be worth it in the long run.  You are gonna' love your new smile.  Praying for your quick healing.
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Alicia (great name by the way),
I'm not exactly young (45), but due to a ton of medical issues my body believes it's much older. I actually had a bone scan done and I have the bones of a 79 year old.
Sorry, that was a little off subject.

I got REALLY lucky as far as pain, swelling, and facial bruising. My pain wasn't too bad. The first 2 days I stayed drugged since it's easier to keep pain away than to try and make it go away. As for swelling, I'm heavy with a round face so I didn't really notice much, if any, swelling and no bruising at all. I guess I should say that I had a total of 18 teeth pulled from top and bottom.

I only had bits and pieces of teeth left, mostly what was removed was roots and posts. That being said at no point since getting my immediate teeth (which I've been reading are a little bulkier than what my final teeth will be) have I felt as if I had a horse face! So if going from basically nothing to a mouth full of teeth doesn't make me feel like that I think there is hope for you! (I'm praying for you that it's true) I've also been fortunate enough that talking hasn't been a problem, much to my husband's dismay. I have actually discovered that I can whistle now and I've never been able to.

Please keep in touch! You should be able to remember my name but worst case scenario, I'm the one that has too many things to say/share/ask so I'm always posting about something.

Good luck!
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Thank you guys for the encouragement. Only 4 more days!!! I get to see them tomorrow so I know I will feel much better just knowing what they look like. I have a really good feeling about everything though. I will probably be doubting myself and asking myself "Why did I do this?" at some point, but these forums and YouTube and just hearing peoples stories and words of encouragement have really helped me prepare and know that even if I have a rocky start, it will get better. Thank you both and congratulations on your new smiles!!!
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where are you now in your waiting? my hands are shaking writing this so i know where u are. hope ur doing well. this place is calming me so much right now
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DitaShannon, read read read. Learn as much as you can so you won't have any unexpected surprises. I won't lie, it's gonna hurt a little. Maybe a lot. But the first 2 days are the roughest. You can do it. Come back here as often as you need. There are several of us who check in throughout the day. You won't be alone. I was terrified going into my extractions but I survived and I promise you, I am the biggest baby you ever seen! LOL ^5
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DitaShannon.... I got it done one week today and let me tell you I really did worry for nothing!!! My mom has worn an upper denture since she was 20yrs old. She told me that I first I would probably hate them and cry and regret doing it because I wouldn't be used to them and I would feel like they looked and felt like huge. My dentist even gave me valium for the night of my extractions and told my husband that I would cry about my appearance and it was normal. I didn't though, I loved them immediately! Be very specific with your dentist about what you want them to look like. I was very detailed in picking out tooth size, placement and color.Also make sure you see the teeth in wax (obviously on a model since you cant try them on with a mouth full of teeth) before you do the procedure. I made little adjustments to mine after I saw them on the model. My teeth are naturally a little bigger and my lateral incisors are a little shorter that the two front teeth so thats what I asked for and the lab did what I wanted without making them look bucky or like a rabbit lol. My dentist was great and he made adjustments that would suit what I wanted. For example my upper lip bone area is already kind of thick so he made the gum above the front teeth a little thinner and lower and kept making adjustments before sending me home. Even though I was out of it, he knew what I wanted and actually cared about my appearance and like I said I love them!!!
As far as the surgery itself goes, I worried for nothing about that too. I seriously only remember little bits of coversation and pressure at one point. I remember feeling around with my tongue and thinking damn I still have a full mouth of teeth and then 2 seconds later the dentist saying "ok all done", it was strange. He said it took some back breaking work to get some of my teeth out and I don't remember any of it and had pretty much no pain for the first couple days because my husband kept on top of my pain before I had any. He set the alarm and every 6 hrs he woke me up to give me ibuprofen and pain meds. I started getting a little sore a few days later when I thought I didn't need the medicine and skipped it (don't do that, even if you feel ok stay on top of meds until your dentist says otherwise, especially if you will be eating or talking more). I also do have some sore spots that are digging in a little bit where I have some swelling in the back. Everybody's experiences are a little different, but for the most part, I have seen most people do really well unless they have complications.
Overall I had an amazing experience and this was the best decision I have ever made!!! My dentist really is great.
You will do just fine and have a beautiful smile when it's all said and done! Just don't settle for anything. Be detailed and articulate when telling the dentist what you want. Listen to the dentist (they have seen a lot), but remember that what you think looks good might be different than what your dentist thinks looks good. You are paying a lot of money for these and have to live with them. A good dentist will want you to look your best.
Good luck!!!!! Keep us posted
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Can someone tell me about "brushing" the dentures......even though I soak them overnight with Polident Antibacterial Denture Cleanser, should I also brush them with a denture toothbrush?  I would that brushing would be harmful to the gums on the denture, that it might pull that away from the teeth. I have had mine since April and have started the implants procedure. The final step of these implants is scheduled for completion in six more weeks and I want to take good care of them; they cost me a fortune! 
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I was also wondering this. Several years ago I worked with elderly as a CNA and we always brushed them with toothpaste and a toothbrush and then put them in the soak. I will most defiant not be removing mine overnigh recommended or not as I do not plan on EVER letting my husband or anyone else see me without teeth. I also am planning to do implants in the future. I know you use a waterpick to clean your gums. If you go on YouTube and type kalinjax implants in the search bar it will take you to the channel of a girl who calls herself kalinjax. She started out with full upper and lower dentures and then after a couple of years got the allow four implants. She documented EVERYTHING throughout her journey from the beginning and has so many videos that talk about any question you can think of about dentures and implants. She is not an expert but like I said she has documented like everything and answers questions very honestly and openly without sugar coating things. I think you would find a lot of information there. Goodluck with your implants! Keep us posted!
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*I meant all in four implants.
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Hi I've had 13 upper teeth removed today and an immediate denture straight in. It's not as bad as you think it'll be. I'm not having implants yet anyway, all I can say is pain afterwards is manageable with medication. I'm still bleeding a little 8 hours later but my dentist said that would happen. You'll be fine and will feel much relief after as I do.
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I know you are probably a little swollen but does your facial structure look different? I guess that's my biggest fear. I don't want the extra bulk under my upper lip to appear too different. I am glad things are going well for you and wish you a speedy recovery!!!
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I swelled up immediately after extractions but any swelling has now gone down. My face is exactly the same as it was before, a little puffy still around my nose. I feel as though my teeth are sticking out but looking at photos before and after they're not, it's just the feeling. Talking is interesting - my daughter said I sound cute, so that's ok lol you will be fine, if I can do it after not going to a dentist due to fear for over 20 years, you can too. The sense of being so proud I actually did something to finally be able to smile outways the hour of discomfort I had to go thru. Once your numb there is no pain whatsoever. You may have made a change to your appearance by having nice teeth, but your heart is the same one, and I guess that's more important, at least to me. Good luck you will be fine.
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You don't brush your dentures while they are in your mouth. After soaking them you use the denture brush and fluid that they soaked in and brush them in your hand-carefully. Brush your mouth/gums with an extra soft brush and regular toothpaste like normal, rinse your mouth, rinse your dentures, insert dentures. Dump soaking fluid. This is only for dentures. I don't know anything about implants except that you do things different.

Good luck!
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Thank you, Alicia..........I got on You Tube and watched some of kalinjax's videos.....I will keep going back for more from time to time (very interesting). Thanks for the brushing instructions; when you brush the dentures, do you try to stay away from the gum area?  That part of the denture looks and feels very fragile to me.
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So I asked my dentist today if you can brush dentures with toothpaste and he said yes. Just don't use anything abrasive like baking soda or anything. I would get a mild toothpaste. He also said to use a soft bristle toothbrush. And brush gently
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i heard that if your in public and have something in your teeth- dentures- you can go to public restroom and use toddler soft tooth brush and use water to lightly brush while dentures are still locked in place.....this girl on youtube does it and says it looks just like anyone else brushing up after lunch and no one knows she has dentures...i was at walmart today buying all my first week supplies- i am still one week until e day- and this elderly man was helping me out with advice....he told me that i should steer away from black pepper because he says it always gets stuck between gum and denture and it hurts very badly....i love, love .....love pepper. i use the big peppercorns that i grind myself...this makes me sad :(
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I can't speak for your denture, but on mine the "gum" area is stronger than it looks and I still brush it. There isn't a spot on them that I don't brush.
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Going to see what my denture looks like in a little over an hour and a half!!! I am excited and I have a good feeling that I will love the way it looks. I was pretty specific about the details I wanted as far as teeth go ( like my lateral incisors a little shorter than the front teeth and the canines a little more prominent than what I currently have etc...) but I am also being realistic in my expectations and trying not to have an exact image in my head of what I want so that I am not disappointed. Keeping fingers crossed!!!
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So I saw my new teeth and they are gorgeous!!! Hopefully they will look just as good in my mouth without making my upper lip look weird. Only 3 more days!!!
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I'm glad that you are pleased with your new teeth! I think that is important. They probably will look strange the first few times you look in the mirror but then you will get used to them and realize how gray you look! Just remember that you will love them eventually! Follow exactly what your dentist tells you to do and it will go better than expected!
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Alicia, I had 12 teeth extracted 3 weeks ago today and got both upper and lower dentures. I know how you are feeling. I was so worried about how they would look and at first I thought they were so big! But it just takes a while to get used to them.  My friend said I now have movie star teeth! I have not really had any problem at all with the top denture (the bottom is another story). Just don't be in a hurry and rush the healing process. Let us know how it turns out for you!


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My comment was supposed to say how GREAT you look, not GRAY (although, in my case the gray is more accurate lol)
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That's what I thought you meant. I usually use my phone on here and the stupid auto correct always changes my words around lol.
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Thank all of you for the support and encouragement. It really does help you get through things easier and posting and talking to other people in similar situations is almost therapeutic. My husband has been great through all of this, but it's just not the same. He can't truly understand all of the different emotions and fears and ups and downs that we go through no matter how empathetic he is is.
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Tomorrow is the big day !!!!! Too bad it is at 2pm. I just took two 5mg valium about an hour ago as instructed and will take two .25mg triazolam (halcion) one hour before my appointment tomorrow . Then pain pills after procedure and 2 more valium before bed tomorrow night
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That Halcion is some weird stuff.  I took the two before the dentist visit and my husband drove me.  It was a 20 minute drive and I don't remember getting to the office or the drive home.  I know that I saw the dentist because my teeth were gone but I don't remember anything until 4 that afternoon.  My appt. was at 7 that morning.  They said I talked to them and did what they asked but I don't remember any of it.  Good Luck today Alicia.  Let us know how it went when you feel up to it.
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They are done!!! Everything went really well and I love them!!! They look great even with the tiny bit of swelling. They do feel like the palate is really really thick but they don't feel or look bucky or anything. Is it normal for the palate to feel so thick and smoothe?
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when you eat...due to the palate...does it change the way you taste food? i am guessing that the roof of our mouth as well as tongue has alot to do with taste.. have heard that you sometime change what you like or what tastes good after surgery. i think the thick palate is normal as we are not used to having anything up there...when i watch youtube vids of people right after extractions they sound clear but just a little like someone who has had veneers or braces...that cute little lisp. i read here that someones child said her mom sounded cute...lol...i take it that is due to the roof of the mouth... i have had braces so i was used to that change in speech but it didnt bother me then.
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The top palate has changed how food tastes to me as well. And I definitely have a lisp.

I'm starting to get used to the thickness of the top piece.

Unfortunately I've had to start over, or so it feels like. After being sick for 10 days and unable to wear my teeth my gums have changed and I feel like I'm starting over. I've been wearing them for a few hours a day gradually increasing the time.

This is the only time I've felt fortunate to be on disability-I don't have to leave the house if I don't want to.
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I'm so happy you had a positive experience! I really think that is critical. My palate feels really thick too. Like my mouth is full. 3 days post and my tongue is still trying to find it's new home. It's also really smooth on the tongue side, but rougher on the palate side. I imagine this to help the adhesive bond once you get to doing that. Don't over do anything. Don't rush eating. Don't do any heavy lifting or bending over for a few days. Basically, anything that will prolong the bleeding. Happy new teeth day!!