Trying to turn my negative attitude into positive

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It's so great finding the positive people here.  And I want to be one of them!!  But right now, I'm on day 10 of full upper and lower dentures, and I'm scared.  Before I got dentures, I had to eat soft foods, I couldn't smile, and I was in pain.  And now, I have to eat liquids, I can't smile because I look like a monkey, I'm in pain, and I can't speak without whistling like a train.  Speaking was the last thing I had left, and now it's gone.  I went from the frying pan into the fire...this is actually worse.  
The whistle is REALLY loud.  It's on "S" and "SH."   I heard one member say to try and make the whistle sound, so I can figure out how to avoid it.  And that makes a lot of sense to me.  But so far, it seems impossible to avoid the whistle no matter what I do with my mouth.  So I've been sticking a wad of gum behind the front teeth of my upper denture, which helps, but it prevents drinking and eating.  
I'm lucky because my very nice dentist assures me "everything can be fixed with dentures."  But the reason I'm scared is because  sometimes I hear other people saying they're still having problems after a long time.  I've only had these for ten days, so I should be patient.  But it's a shock.  I thought I'd gain the ability to smile, and I didn't imagine I'd want to stop talking, even in my own home.  I can't stand the sound of my own speech.  I can't stand the sight of myself in the mirror, with or without my dentures.  So I'm trying to focus on the future, and the fact that my gums are shrinking and this is a process that takes a while.  But it's not easy, lol.  I'm having a hard time with being depressed. 
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Laura Castro

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I'm at day 14 and it does get better,I found the more I talk the better it gets and quickly. My speech was horrible the first week ,but I speak almost like I did before dentures. I would practice talking at home and when I was out I would talk to anyone. So,the key is talk a lot, it will improve. I read somewhere that it takes 30 days to adjust to dentures,so you'll be ok!!
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Once your gums have shrunk, it will become much better, hang on in there!

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Anna

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Thank you so much, Laura and Sheila!!!   :)  
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Hi B. Things will get better but unfortunately feel like they will get the worst of you before the better. It takes time and it will test your patience. There are some adjustments that can be done to eliminate the whistle but talking aloud often is one thing. Practice counting from 60-79. Saying "S" and "F" seem to be the worst. The adjustments that are possible all depend on the denture for example if you have an overjet, if your teeth aren't closing, if the palate is too thick and possibly a couple of other reasons. So hard to tell on here and not in person. Hang in there and I really hope you get the adjustments needed to help you through this journey. Keep your head up! You got this!
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lisa j Llewellyn

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Hi, thanks for reaching out to us, we are here to help if we can. First off let me say I was there with those emotions. I only had a full upper and a partial bottom, but I get it. I completed my full upper extractions in February, I still have my temp. I promise it will get better, will it ever be great, no promises there. You will continue to have new challenges. I can say that I am finding that I am not as self-conscious anymore. I think my upper lip still protrudes, but ya know.... whatever....!
Your eating will get better, personally I stayed on a somewhat soft diet for a good month, then trying things slowly. Remember every day will be different, then every week may be different. What you can't eat today may be easier in 2 days.
My final words are.....stay hopeful, stay positive, have a sense of humor, be patient, stay on site, and lastly learn to say "whatever"!!!! Lol
Best of luck
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Thank you, Josie!  Here's an update.  I took some aspirin and coated my sore spots with Benzodent.  Then I jammed the dentures in place, and ta -a!  I could, with some effort, pronounce "S" and "SH" correctly with no whistle. It's taking a lot of concentration, but if I speak slowly it can be done!  
I must work on my patience and my attitude.  I go out in public, and when I smile people look a bit startled.  I don't think it's my imagination.  The pink gum part of my upper denture sticks out further than the teeth, and I wonder if the gum part is too thick and needs to be filed down?  Because I feel like my smile is really weird right now.  
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Yes it can be trimmed. That particular area will look kind of like a monkey mouth as your gums recede. 1mm is like a mile in the mouth so they should be able to trim some away for you. If you have plans for a Hard Reline at 6mths you should notice a difference but in the mean time your Dental Office should be there for your needs on this journey. Hope they can "fix you up" soon.
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Yes, I get several soft relines and then a hard reline at 6 months.  Thank you for the information!!
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I have a strange random whistle I get with the "s" words and I have permanent implant secured dentures for over a year now.  Sometimes, for no reason that I can figure out, the air goes over the top of my denture and makes funny sounds.  You always wonder if other people can notice.

I think as your gums lose their swelling and shrink, it just creates more space for the air to escape from the wrong places.  The gums keep shrinking for many months, but they do finally stop!
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Thanks to Lisa and Janet...replies are so helpful!! Before my E-Day, I was watching videos on YouTube made by an upbeat lady nicknamed "Beach Chick."   Her videos are SOOOO positive, and I got the impression from her that getting dentures is actually fun.  I mean, that's how sunny this person is.  So it was a shock when I crashed into the depths of sadness, with the feeling that I had elected to have half my face amputated.   I was expecting to be relieved that the agony of my natural teeth would never trouble me again.  But instead, I felt like I had made a devastating mistake.  Well, obviously, I didn't make a mistake.  My teeth were making me very ill, and I should have done this a long time ago.  Thank you so very much for being there.  All of your replies are doing wonders for me...this is one of those times when the internet makes life much better.   :)
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And there are a lot of small benefits you may not have thought about. I had terrible temperature sensitivity for years. Had to give up drinking cold water many years ago. Now I drink it and it is so delicious. Every glass makes me happy that I can drink it again. And in the winter I went outside and the cold air didn’t zing my teeth like it used to. And if I bite something like a peanut, and hear a crack in my head, I don’t panic that I just broke a tooth and would open Pandora’s box of dental visits. And then there’s ice cream.
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lisa j Llewellyn

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And yet another good point!!!
Funny I never really realized I stopped eating ice cream because of my teeth...now I can and I'm enjoying every mouthful..lol
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I got that way at day 5,I was so depressed,that's when I found this place and read about other people's stories and it really helped, I'm so grateful for this place! Isn't it nice to not have to cover your mouth when you laugh because you don't want anyone to see your raggedy teeth? It was sooo worth it!
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I mean it's PEOPLE making life better, but it's the internet making it possible to connect to them.  
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lisa j Llewellyn

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Thank you for reaching out! It will get better!! :)
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charlie brown

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From my experience, you think your speech sounds worse than it really does. Something about dentures and the newly renovated acoustics of your mouth makes you notice things that are inaudible to others. To convince myself of this, i recorded myself talking. I was a little surprised when the loud whistle I was hearing in my head couldn’t be heard on playback. I’m not saying this is the case for you, but it is a confidence boost nonetheless
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lisa j Llewellyn

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Well said Charlie
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charlie brown

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I wouldn’t be where I am without the support I’ve received from this site. Josie and Lisa have been life savers.
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Laura and Lisa pointed out a couple benefits that I experienced tonight.  It was my hubby's birthday, we went out for dinner, and unexpectedly ran into an old friend from high school.  I didn't tell her I just got dentures.  I was able to drink my water full of ice cubes, and I smiled and laughed freely.  And yes, it was great not having to ask for water without ice, and not having to cover up my teeth every time I smiled.  AND, guess what...I had a cup of soup with no problems at all.  My lower denture stayed put while I spoke and ate the soup!  I also made it through the evening without the train whistle!  I attribute this great evening to the help I got here;  you've all turned around my viewpoint.  
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Congratulations, awesome job!!
Keep up the good work