Who are you comfortable letting see you without your teeth?

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I'm still less than a week into having all my teeth pulled, and I'm wondering how people feel about having the dentures out in front of people?  Do you let your family see you with your face sunken in?  The postman?  Anyone?  Nobody?  I'm not comfortable at all, partly because my mouth is full of stitches etc.  I haven't even looked at it with them out. (Dentist suggested that I not look and I said no problem!)   I'm taking the bottoms out to sleep because most of the rubbing spots seem to be around the bottom ones and I need some relief.

Does the self consciousness get better?
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I've had dentures about 5 years and NOBODY sees me without. I can't even stand to look in the mirror.
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Thanks for answering Sharon.  I suspect that will be me too.  Do you sleep with them out?
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No. I'm very uncomfortable without them as my mouth wants to overextend to close. I used to have TMJ problems, which makes that jaw joint very sensitive.
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I had to go 5 months with. Onteeth bc my insurance didn't cover temps! I avoided everyone I was a hermit! My husband and son were the only ones but I wasn't sunken in but you could def tell! Now that I have my perms those suckers stay in until I go to bed! Bc now with the dentures my face looks normal and when I take them out it's very noticeable! I just take them out to go to bed!
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Just immediate Family knows but everyone else doesn't need to be all in your business. you have to be carful when you take them out cause one day just one day you'll  get to comfortable and forget you took them out at night to clean them  and be running late for work and forget them, O My you'll have to act sick to go back home and either get them or stay home. it will be funny to you later but at that particular point you'll be so scared to even look at any one just put your hand over your mouth and they will look at you and figure you have a toothache. Trust me you'll never forget them again. 
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No one sees me without it. I’m not vain, however I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me. I’m getting implants in about six months, so I’ll deal until then.
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My mum and dad see me without them in. I have both uppers and lowers. I will go out in public without my lowers in as you cant tell they arent in but uppers have to be in in public. . Sone family members have seen a photo without my dentures as i look like my departed grandmother without them . Other than that noone else will see me without them . I sleep without them and eat without them .
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Hi Cassie,

Do you eat without them because it is easier?
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Yes it felt funny eating with them in and food kept getting cold .now i eat without as they are too loose . .im about to get a perm reline down on my lowers next week so i will try eating with them in again.
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Some food you can eat with them and some with out, but continue to eat with them it will get easier and you'll know how to eat with them more, it takes a lil while but you have to keep practicing, know i can eat with them in and with out the fixodent hold on the dentures. 
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I have been aithout teeth for 5 months , Ive just started to wear my denture a few hours a day Im still healing and really struggling. Ive had to go to dr appts vet appts had to have minor surgery go to the grocery store walk my dogs see my dad, all my neighbors see me, its life you go thru things my friends understand, they want my outcome to be good. Yes Ive been home a lot, no I am not eating out, but when this process is over and I can wear my dentures on a daily basis all day I will make up for lost time and everyone will soon forget that I had no teeth at one point. So stop worrying so much a lot of the poeple I do see when Im out I will probably never see again. And friends and family and husbands DO UNDERSTAND. GOOD LUCK EVERYONE!!!!
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Hi I had all my remaining teeth pulled aswell, i wouldnt be taking them out for the first 2 weeks that includes sleeping in them, this is to allow your tongue to fully get use to your mouths new set up after doing this i found my speech was perfect, i appreciate an adhesive isnt going to last 2 weeks im simply saying when there loose remove clean properly rinse mouth with an antbacterial mouthwash and put straight back in again, good luck with your new teeth and its honestly not all doom and gloom eventually you will have great pride and be like hey my teeth look great and no one is any the wiser.
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Hi Alex,  Was that a while ago for you?  Are you past all the early difficult stuff?  My tongue is getting sore from banging around the lower one and I just have to get some relief periodically.  This is a temporary setup for me because eventually I am getting the permanent dentures attached to implants.  Still trying to figure out how to navigate all this.
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well 7 months ago i got  all my top removed then when i went back for my 6 month check, i said to the dentist you know what to do? pull all the lower ones aswell, so im still transitioning anyway, but i use to have speech problems untill i realised it was far easier to keep them all in for at least 2 weeks, i stocked up on macaroni and cheese tons of it the little microwavable packets and good cheese slices and lived of macaroni and cheese and snacked on cheese slices throughout the day untill i could handle harder foods on my lower teeth, now im seeing a  light at the end of the tunnel and i wouldnt say getting them implanted was even necessary, with reliners and transitioning to permanent dentures the fit should be fine depends if you want to spend the extra cash i suppose.

Thing i always remind myself was my grandparents were fine i couldnt remember thinking, hey gran talks with a lisp she cant eat right as none of that was the case, so i take comfort from knowing its totally doable and will be a massive improvement longterm no more trying to hide my missing teeth.

Im not sure if implants are the best approach i think it would depend massively on how good your oral hygeine was, or anyones for that matter were you always brushing your teeth did you have them gleaming if the answer is no they would most likely look bad over time as old habits die hard, its far easier to take them out look at them make sure there fully clean soak at times and there all brand new again, but again its personal preference i suppose.
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Yep Absolutley
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Can you kiss with them in?
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I haven't even told anyone I'm getting my teeth removed and replaced with dentures, nevermind show anyone without them in. Who knows though. After it's done it may not be as big of a deal.
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Actually it's not,  well eventually the feeling you have will go away and you will be normal. Hey its for your benefit only and they will look great. I got the Hollywood Whites the number 1 and every one says your teeth look Great so white and perfect. I said to my self if i have to do this then I'm going to get the  perfect TV looking Teeth as when you see to stars of TV and Just immediate Family knows but everyone else doesn't need to be all in your business. you have to be carful when you take them out cause one day just one day you'll  get to comfortable and forget you took them out at night to clean them  and be running late for work and forget them, O My you'll have to act sick to go back home and either get them or stay home. it will be funny to you later but at that particular point you'll be so scared to even look at any one just put your hand over your mouth and they will look at you and figure you have a toothache. Trust me you'll never forget them again. Theres  look perfect a so white and shiny, O yea I got them Hollywood Teeth. 
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I can handle letting my husband see me without them in. I still cover my mouth if I yawn or laugh in front of him. Nobody else sees me without them. A good friend lives upstairs and even she has not seen me without them. I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with the general public seeing me without teeth. I'm pretty self-conscious about it with the dentures IN. I'd lose my mind if they were out. I just hate the way I look and talk without them. 
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I am exactly the same except I don’t even let my husband see me without them.
I agreed to wait for my dentures(only uppers) for 6 weeks after extraction let me tell you it was a nightmare I cried all the time I felt so old and ugly I didn’t leave the house unless it was unavoidable and even then I wore one of those face masks that the drs and nurses use. I tried that wax they give you when you have braces but my gums were so sore I couldn’t pull it off I even tried mouth guards that they use for hockey and other sports but again because of my sore gums I couldn’t use them. I’m not even 100% comfortable with my dentures in but I can get through it I always feel like I’m slurring words and they don’t fit right yet so I understand and sympathize I pray it gets better or easier to live with for us both im sure there are many others that feel this way too I pray for us all
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How long ago did you get the denture? Do you think healing went faster without the immediate? I'm at 5 weeks with immediates and my gums still hurt sometimes. 

The worst part is the fatigue though. I get so tired of having them in. My mouth is just screaming for them to come out so it can rest. I've been good though, put them in by 10 and out just before I go to sleep.

Speech, especially later in the day, is still pretty difficult for me. I also feel like I slur everything. And my bottoms float up while I'm talking and make my voice sound weird, kind of like I have a bubble in my throat. Then after a full day of talking to others, all I can do is be silent when I get home. Husband probably secretly likes it. But by the end of the day all the muscles in my face and mouth are sore and barely working. I'd never imagine that having sore face muscles would affect your whole body, but it certainly does make you overall exhausted. 

I also hope it gets easier for us. Every day is a little better than the last for me, as far as pain goes. Time's going to pass anyway, so I may as well take it and get adjusted to wearing them. 
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Hi Lisa,

I'm glad you mentioned the facial muscles and physical exhaustion.  I'm exactly two weeks in and while I've healed remarkably quickly, I feel that exhaustion and "can't wait to take these things out" attitude every single day.

I went back to work Monday this week and felt like everybody could tell.  The teeth felt too long because my gums were too swollen for the pink part to fit over correctly.  I bit myself constantly on the inside of my cheek with no intent to chew at all.  I sound like I have a lisp, to my own ears, but everybody at work was gracious and told me I sounded just like normal.

My first reline was a week ago today and I thought I'd get another one today, but I didn't.  She did make a couple of adjustments and filed/polished the teeth down so I wouldn't bite myself.  I'm up to chewing turkey sausage bits and I can have a breakfast burrito now, if the tortilla is very soft.  Chewing is still painful, but I'm forcing myself to do it.

Next Thursday I have to have an osseous flap surgery on my six remaining top teeth.  I understand this is going to set me back because they're just going to cut my gums open, clean up the roots of those 6 teeth, and get sewn back up.  No more chewing for a while. 

That procedure is meant to "save" my front teeth on top because the dentist convinced me if I didn't, my front gum and facial structure would collapse.  I'm not sure I believe that, but here we go anyway.
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The facial structure collapse; I'm inclined to go along with that. I had a top partial denture for years. Then when I finally had to have the final few pulled, and went to a full denture, I felt like I've turned into one of those old ladies with the wrinkles around the mouth. I really hate it, But I'd advise you to go as long as you can with whatever teeth you can keep.
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I'm sure it's true - I'm just frustrated.  I've finally gotten to the point where I don't absolutely hate my partial and every day is better.  It's difficult to face taking a giant step backward - I mean, even though it's not a step backward, it feels like it because I'll be back to liquid diet and dealing with painful gums/healing.  I'm okay, I'm just reacting badly.  :-)
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Schelly, your dentist is right about the front buildup. We donot realize how much space our teeth fill up. If you look at an anatomical skull with teeth, you will see at how forward an angle they come out in front. Good move.
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Thank you all for your replies. Now I'm 9 days post extraction and I'm spending as much time as I can with the dentures out. I can just do everything better from eating, drinking, taking pills and sleeping better with just my stitched up gums. Yesterday was almost a "what have I done" meltdown day. I'm lucky I get to stay home almost all the time and I think I'm comfortable enough with just the uppers in to run a quick errand. I'm hoping after my next visit to the dentist that adjustments will help. My only long outing every week is to my parents senior home and everyone there in 80s, 90s or 100s so I'm thinking they won't be passing judgement. Lol.
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Hang in there. It was worth it. Takes time. You will get to a point where it feels normal and miss them. I took mine out for healing and things healed fast. People die of dental problems and infections, so we are good ,-)
No kidding, there was a petite mummy found,. They determined she was royal and beautiful and young and died of a very horrible and painful top tooth abscess. Love 21st century science!
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OMG Rocg that's an amazing story!

Janet how are you doing now - hoping you're doing better and that you've got a couple of adjustments done to your denture now that makes them feel better.

Let us know what's going on.  I feel like this is a cliffhanger and I'm waiting for the next episode so I can find out how it turned out.  LOL
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I got my stitches out yesterday and they relined the dentures so they certainly fit better. I'm still happier with them out though for eating and talking and sleeping etc at home. I can't really see that I am ever going to try to learn to eat with them because I will just put food in the blender and make it mush and eat it toothless until I get my implant dentures. I've lost about 7 pounds so far and that makes me happy.
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LOL!  I heard that!  I lost 6.5 lbs my first week and I was excited!  This process has certainly been good for shrinking my appetite, that's for sure.

:-D
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Well, I'm just over 8 weeks post extraction and no one has seen me without my teeth.  Just no need, though I do go without them at times, just for the break.  My immediate dentures fit great, so most of the time I don't even think about them.  
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Hi Ken, How is the eating going at 8 weeks?
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Well, it's now over 13 weeks, and I actually go out without my dentures in, more and more.  I'm letting my gums heal and a break at this point from wearing the dentures is good.  I wear them at work, but that's the only place I always have them in.
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I am in my 4th week and my husband of 20+ years has not seen me with out teeth in, I get up before him and I go to bed right before he does (it's dark do he does not see me).

I have not gotten the nerve to look at my self. 
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I won’t even look in the mirror while cleaning my dentures. I look like an old, old granny
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***CHECK THIS OUT!!***  I got on amazon and bought disposable or even cute 4 pack of cotton surgical masks!.  I wear them all the time since i have temps in over a full mouth of implant abutments, and its painful and only wear temps when i see someone or run to the store.  GET the mask!
  Amazon 10 pack for 6 bucks! or you can find them anywhere...youll LOVE it and not have to worry someone will walk into the room and you are sitting there.  Heck i even wear them out on my dog walks....i cant believe i didnt think of it sooner.  hope this helps someone!
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I also went on Amazon right away and bought masks right away. Lol. But I vape and am always drinking something so I haven't used them. But I have one in my car and one in my purse just in case..
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I didnt think Id use them that much either but i do!!    i always have one stuffed into my bra i can be upstairs and someone can come up quickly and i dont even hear them  lol. So i love mine they are a huge help.
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Janet, i got the cotton ones that have cute faces on them was a 6 pack for 8 bucks they are so comfy, go around the ears,, and i keep it pushed down under my nose and only covers my mouth and chin.  if you want to take a drink push it up.  The cotton ones (come in white or black) with the little "fangs" or "smiley mouth" on them work perfect for that.
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https://www.amazon.com/C-Z-Emoticon-Mouth-Muffle-Anti-Dust/dp/B01N8X4Z43/ref=pd_sim_60_6?_encoding=U...

i have a smaller face and these are perfect, and they stretch.  I think anyone can wear them
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Those are very cute.  I saw the cotton ones listed but went with the disposables for some reason.
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Just had my extractions on my uppers done two days ago. The Dentist told me to wait two days before putting my temporaries in. Then slowly get used to them. I tried today and my lip is so protruding and my gums so sore and swollen. I don't know how people can put the temporaries in right away. I am rinsing with salt water and drinking lemon water.
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I woke up from the surgery with the temporaries already in and they felt comfortable.  Went back 24 hours later for a post surgical checkup and they took them out for some adjustments and put them back in.  I left them in for 4 or 5 days until I got brave enough to take them out and clean them.  A month later and I can't stand them in my mouth.  LOL.  I spend 99% of my time with them out.  From what I've read and seen, it seems like most dentists put the temporaries in right away and don't tell you to wait 2 days.  They say they act like a bandage and help with the immediate healing and to prevent bleeding.
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my temps were in right after, went back next day, they took them out took a look inside and put them back,  then was told to do the salt water rinses, and to remove them every night.

 I have my temps in from 6:30 am to 11:00 pm. although I did leave the bottoms out for a bit longer during the first 4 weeks. 

Cherie I hope you are feeling better. 
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My dentist also told me to keep them in for a couple days.
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Cherie, I'm so sorry you're having so much pain.  I had my immediates put in three minutes after the last stitch was tied off in my mouth.  I, too, was told to keep them in for 48 hours, and at my check-up the 3rd day, I was told not to wear them until I wasn't so sore.  By the end of the 2nd week, I could wear them all day, so I went back to work.  I hated missing all that work!
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My bleeding stopped that same day. I am doing the salt water rinses but no temporaries. Actually when you think of it, in the olden days people didn't have dentures for months. Only two of my molars were stitched.I did go out yesterday, some people say they barely notice that I don't have teeth. That I am fortunate for and I guess my comfort is more important than worrying about what people think. I will keep working on getting the dentures in and bring them to my next appointment to see what the Dentist think.
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When I had my top teeth extracted I was not offered animmediate my dentist told me I had to wait three months and that's what happened. People told me if I hadn't told them I didn't have teeth they wouldn't have known and I guess I also was fortunate that my upper lip was big enough so that people didn't notice I think it's because it was still swollen. Now a year and a half later I never want people to see me without my denture.
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I'm on Day 3 and I swore no one would see me without my dentures... However my hubby had to take me to my dental appointment yesterday so he got to see everything, much to my dismay. He has been so sweet, telling me he can't tell when they are out. He's lying...I look like me Grandmother.
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O my goodness!! That's great!! No1 has seen me without mine but my mom had asked me what I looked like without and my response was like Granny. Lol.
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I cheat a little. I give my uppers or lowers a rest some evenings, and I wear one of those sports bite protectors. I fit it to my mouth without dentures. You put it in boiling water then into your mouth, to fit it. From there on, it fills up the space your dentures take, so your mouth doesn’t collapse when you don’t have the dentures it. If you are lucky, you can get them on sale at Walmart for a dorrar or so.
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Only my mom has seen me two months out. I don't think I will ever show my husband. I'm pretty sure he would leave me...
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I don't care who see's me without teeth.  Hey it's part of life, it happens.  I had all my teeth pulled 4 months and still don't wear my dentures on a regular basis.  So I go toothless almost all the time, even at work.  Nobody really cares, most people understand the pain involved in multiply tooth extractions.  At 60 years old I don't care what people say or think.
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I'm 62 and I definitely think that makes it easier to say I don't care than for a younger person.
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I am not at all comfortable being seen without my teeth.  Thank goodness, I get my dentures next Tuesday, two months after I had my extractions. I've been wearing lightweight surgical masks in company, even in front of my husband although it has slipped down now and again and he has seen me in all my glory. He isn't bothered about it, fortunately.  

Hank, I envy you not being concerned about being seen toothless.  Being a woman, vanity is making me long for my new teeth!
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I am a 72 year old women.  I am married and I never wear my bottoms and partial on top.  It has changed my desire to go out to eat because my dentures are awful and I use SECURE.  I need a lot for them to stay in place.  GRRRRRR
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Where do you live, Joan?  If you are in the UK the most you would pay for dentures, even a full set, would be £256, and that would include any treatment you may need. If you are a pensioner on a low income you would qualfy for help with the costs.  It's sad to think that your life has had to change due to badly-fitting dentures.
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Agree 100%
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I was toothless for almost 2 years due to financial problems and not being able to pay them off!!!! At first I was very self-consious~~overcame that eventually but always felt like an old hag. But whata ya gonna do????
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