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Can anyone give me advice on marrying a non believer.

I am a spirit filled Christian who truly believes In the word of God but I happen to be in love with a non believer and want to marry her. I understand that Paul tells us not to be unevenly yoked with no believers but I can not see myself with anyone else and I am willing to pray, fight and Sacrifice my all to be with her.
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  • Please get a possible biblical truths,and a good premarital word anointed Christian ministeror and christian counselor, my experience 32yrs ago was the enemie sent an imposter ,i questioned it and im so glad 32yrs later i was very honest w myself, married a believer its been a great Godly and natural adventure awesome and peaceful to live w a person already fully sole out to God, i asked my self did i want to fully dismiss thenon christian qualities, or not.esp after id grown so far pass that level of ishappier than , i also had to be honest the nonchristian could not care to please God as a soldout to God CHRISTIAN. For me been equally yoked has enable us both to deal w one another in the best Godly manners. Im happier than all those we have known to do differently
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  • Please get a possible biblical truths,and a good premarital word anointed Christian ministeror and christian counselor, my experience 32yrs ago was the enemie sent an imposter ,i questioned it and im so glad 32yrs later i was very honest w myself, married a believer its been a great Godly and natural adventure awesome and peaceful to live w a person already fully sole out to God, i asked my self did i want to fully dismiss thenon christian qualities, or not.esp after id grown so far pass that level of ishappier than , i also had to be honest the nonchristian could not care to please God as a soldout to God CHRISTIAN. For me been equally yoked has enable us both to deal w one another in the best Godly manners. Im happier than all those we have known to do differently
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  • EMPLOYEE
    I’m Happy To Assist You.
    Dear Caurice,
    Mrs. Phillips really gave you a Powerful Testimony.

    Now, truly this is up to you.

    But here's a questions, why would you give yourself to dogs or cast your pearls to swine? Matthew 7:6 Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you. You are a Born Again Believer and you are going to disobey God's Word from the start? 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? I could give you 1 more account: Samson-Judges 14:3 Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for me; for she pleaseth me well. We know the end of the story...

    I wasn't going to say anything but please be Obedient to God and God's Word, Be Encouraged and Be True to Yourself, there are still True Women of God that are Sold Out to God. Being a Pastor's Wife, Oh My Goodness, I've seen this countless times.

    My Mother would always say, take your time, why are you in such a hurry to marry? You have lots of time to get married once Salvation has taken place.
    Psalm 27:14 Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: WAIT, I say, on the Lord.

    I pray this helps you...
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  • Marrying an unbeliever is against God's Word. Whatever God instructs us to do, we are in sin if we don't obey it. The problem is dating someone who is an unbeliever. If you're not supposed to marry one, you aren't supposed to date them. I heard a Christian therapist once say, "the kind of people you date are the kind you will marry." Anyone who isn't a believer is in darkness. The Word says, "what place does light have with darkness?" Meaning, it doesn't have any place together. The kind of people we date are the kind of people we marry. Wait on God and if this person is God's choice, they will come to know Jesus. If you do your own thing, following your own heart, you have no assurance she will come to know God or that things will end well. Obey God at all cost. If we don't, we have no assurance God will bless it. The Word says don't make your plans expecting God to bless them. So do the right thing. Since you love her and want to marry her, you must WAIT ON GOD or make the choice instead of God. I made the wrong choice even with a believer and IT DID NOT WORK. Sometimes if we do the choosing we have to do the undoing. I'm not the only one to say that. I heard a Pastor speak it and it happened to them too. Do the right thing. What is the right thing? God's Word needs to be the final authority in your life on any topic or question. If you think you can get by without obeying, you may live to learn it the hard way. "He that knows to do right and does it not, to him it is a sin." Now that you know the truth, God expects you to do it. Do NOT do your own thing in this matter.
    H Davies/Christian Minister
    • Can you give me some better insight, can you explain why a Christian woman is married to a non believer and she is being advised on how she should conduct herself as a believer in her marriage?

      1 Peter 3: 1-3“
      Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.”
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  • Caurice,
    I'm confused... You said of yourself, "I am a spirit filled Christian who truly believes In the word of God." You also said you know the Word of God tells you not to be unequally yolked with non-believers. So... Are you suggesting that the Holy Spirit would advise you to ignore the Word of God?

    You're not looking for spiritual truth in this blog... you're looking for someone to validate your lust for a woman and say it's OK to ignore the Word of God and the Spirit of Truth.

    If you truly are a "spirit filled Christian", then your actions would validate that filling with the Fruit of the Spirit which includes self-control.

    Sorry! No, I cannot validate your choice to ignore God's Word or the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
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  • God's Word is His will and it should be the final authority in our life for every situation and decision. God forbids the marrying of an unbeliever. Don't ever date an unbeliever since the kind of people we date are the kind we marry. Do not violate God's Word because if you do, you are outside of God's will and He is not obligated to save your husband because you marry him wrongly. You have no guarantee what will happen in a marriage that is not equally yoked together. "What place does light have with darkness?" That is God's Word. Obey God at all costs. If you don't in this matter, what will the next issue be? Do the right thing and don't let a pattern of spiritual weakness get rooted in you through compromise in this matter. I refused to marry someone I really loved when I was very young. He was actually a believer but of a very different faith and he had no Godly lifestyle or spiritual understanding. He didn't even attend his own church. I wouldn't have converted ot his faith so we were unequally yoked together. Just obey God because His instructions are what is right for you and your boyfriend. If we think we know more than God, we are very foolish.
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  • Other thought from your question. You should be willing to fight and sacrifice to do God's will before anything for an unbelieving mate. Otherwise, your mate is an idol before God.
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  • the major problem of mankind is trying to instruct God to do their will instead of following God's will.

    as a believer you are not advice to marry an unbeliever so that they will not drove you out of God's plan and coverage...

    if you desired to marry her firstly convert her to a believer if not restrain from going further.

    light and darkness has nothing in common...

    let's be sincere and realistic instead of been emotional and ended up enslaved by the devil.

    marriage is destiny fulfilment, if there's no destiny compatibility it can fulfill the marital purpose.
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  • I am married to an unbeliever. While we as believers can receive deliverance and healing from the Lord, the unbeliever cannot. If you marry an unbeliever, be prepared to live with someone who will love their demons and who may continue to invite more demons into their lives through more serious sinful choices and be prepared to be demonizzed by their demons.
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  • My advice and experience and other are useless and worthless, but I will show you what apostle Paul said,"1 Corinthians 7:10-17.
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  • Oh, I forgot one important thing want to show, Philippines 4:6-7. Keep on praying until you get a clear answer because this is a life time changing for you.
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  • Wisdom is invaluable and I appreciate those who care enough to share it.
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